Push-Pull gone wrong

[Bosshogg]

Been dating this girl for about 3 months using this theory fairly well...We can go a week without talking and it`s fine.

But lately I`ve been "testing" a little too much...Came over last week...Kissed,cuddled(basically acted like a couple)...I havent called since and she blocked me on MSN...that part doesnt bother me...

my question is..what happens once you play hard to get too much and push her away BUT actually like her...

what should I do without looking like a chump?

thanks

 

[jigga23]

dude im in the same position as you. almost exactly. I think girls just mirror what the guy does. you ever notice that like if you say something like we should meet up if you want too. then shell ask you the same tihng with the same words. If you play hard to get too much shell probably go fvck someone else and/or play the same or harder. Think about it if she were doing the same to you wouldnt u go fvck someone else if she kept on being really hard to get. people get exhausted eventually of that bull sh*t. What im trying to do now is show her a lot more interest cause i dissed her pretty bad a little bit ago we were going to fvck but i didnt. so shes probably in fvck him im oging to go after other dudes. so im chasing her somewhat right now but if she disses me one more time im going to take away all my attention from her and she should come running back. so try the same lemme know how it works

 

[Phat]

man you play hard to get to get the girl. not when your going out with her. haha u dum ass

 

[Bosshogg]

thx jigga...

But by giving her all this attention the second she turns her back on you...arent you giving her all the control?

 

[jigga23]

actually it works in your favor if you give her attention. cause once you give her the right amount then you turn your back on her then shell be like wtf. so in fact you kind of have an advantage you hold something she wants and you decide if and when and how much you give to her. that sh*t could be like a freakin drug if you do it right. ive dealt with a lot of attention hos i use their games agaist them. yea their smother me with attention and everything and i go with it then they cut it off all the sudden then im like wtf. so i do the same and usually works. think about like this if you want. if she does something that u like like giving you good attention then go towards her if shes doing stupid sh*t then back off. the girl im dealing with gives me mix signals then she just totally flakes sometimes (dont blame her though cause i dissed her) but im trying to make it up to her right now by just being straight forward not too many games but she still is flaking so after last night im not going to call her ever cuase thats what i wa sjust doing recently she will wonder where my all attention went. when girls say call me or you start pursuing and are able to discipline yourself you actually have the power casue the ball is in your hands. if you dont call it will bug her. she reacts to your actions

 

[Mr_knowit_all]

You guys need to quit making excuses for women's behavior. Trying to rationalize what a woman does is an exercise in futility. Most women are sneaky creatures, and their needs can change from day to day. Concentrate on yourself, and never put your happiness in the hands of another person. Especially not a woman. If you have your own things going, and your playing several different women, then when one bugs out on you, it'll be no big deal.

Men have to understand that woman are emotionally better equipped to handle relationships. Ever since they were little, they've been taught how to play the game. While we were learning football, and fishing, they were learning how to play the relationship game.

In conclusion, just take care of yourself, and let the chips fall where they may. A woman should be a compliment to your happiness, not a necessity for it.

 

[Jariel]

There are so many troubles caused by playing mindgames. Your best bet is not to play them and avoid girls who do. Life is so much easier that way!

 

[So pimp its scary]

^^^^
Also... Why let yourself get SOO wrapped up in the impression you are making that you will push a girl away??

 

[everywomanshero]

Push/Pull is a technique to make her emotionally compelled to chase you. Just pushing away by itself might help sometimes if you've been too needy, but for the most part I think you need to review your push/pull concepts. Swiggcat offers the best explanation I've seen, but it's a concept that's easy to *think* you understand but sometimes difficult to implement correctly. Most guys are going to mess up when learning to use this stuff. I mess this stuff up too sometimes. It's worth it for the end result.

 

[mrRuckus]

Men have to understand that woman are emotionally better equipped to handle relationships. Ever since they were little, they've been taught how to play the game. While we were learning football, and fishing, they were learning how to play the relationship game.

Most don't have any idea what they're doing. If they did why are they miserable all the time? If they're so good at reading emotions and sh1t why do they always say you're mad at them when you're not or that you're being mean when you're not or cause turmoil when everything is fine? Why do they try to put you on lockdown and won't let you go out with your friends but instead want you to stay in and do absolutely nothing with them when its better for your relationship if you spend some time apart?

They really have no more of a clue how to read men than we do them.. and no idea how to run a relationship. If they did there wouldn't be so many letters to Ann Landers.


"Dear Ann,

My boyfriend beats me daily with a curling iron but says he loves me. What should i do? I don't want to leave him because i have no spine and/or brain."