"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Push-Pull Dynamics

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I'd like some help and perspective here. For those of us in the 'mature' dating world, what are your best examples of using push-pull with women to increase attraction?

Game basics stay the same as you 'grow up'. But there are subtleties. Please share yours with me.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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Regarding PULL:

When I live with a woman and she behaves unacceptably, I distance myself by going outside and working in the yard more, going to my workshop more, not eating meals with her, basically anything to physically go away. When she tries to talk to me I keep my answers really short and sweet. I also spend more time at work or where ever.

With women I am gaming and/or do not live with, just go NC. Don't respond to them for a couple days minimum. No attention on FB if that's your thing, nothing.

The way I look at it, the pull part is nothing more than temporary NC.

Regarding PUSH:

When a woman behaves in a manor that pleases me, those are the moments where a little bit of beta may come out of me. I may give her the choice of what activity we do, pay her a compliment, or buy her something. But these moments are few and far between. Small little moments in a day mixed in with the rest of the day where I behave like a man.
 
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