Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Pursuing girls you don't like at all

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So there's a girl I want to ****. She's probably a 7, but she's "my type," so to me her looks are higher than a 7.

Problem? Can't stand her. She's literally said to me that she's perfect. Red flag, I know. I won't go into all the other personality traits of hers that are awful.

Do I even bother with this? What would you guys do?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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There was once a girl that would hang around with me and my buddies (she was my friend's cousin), and her and I did not get along at all. Cheap shot comments all the time to each other. Hated this girl. Then we fvcked. And fought during the sex. Literally arguing throughout the whole thing. This happened about 5 times over a month long period. That was literally it.

It was worth it for the hilarious story of how we would fight, but that's about it. I wouldn't put much effort into it, but why not if it falls in your lap.
 

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Good story. I can imagine the sex with this chick would be angry lol
 

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So there's a girl I want to ****. She's probably a 7, but she's "my type," so to me her looks are higher than a 7.

Problem? Can't stand her. She's literally said to me that she's perfect. Red flag, I know. I won't go into all the other personality traits of hers that are awful.

Do I even bother with this? What would you guys do?
Only a loser would pursue a woman he doesn't like. It's dishonest to her and yourself and a sign of desperation. Shouldn't you have an abundance of women you DO like?
 

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Lol

"Women are just for sex. Ignore everything else." -SS

"You should only pursue women you like and care about." -SS
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Yes, women you care about are just for sex.

It's really bad karma to spend time with a woman you don't care about. That's the problem with finding a girl you love. Women you would previously have fallen in love with make you yawn.
 

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Worthless
 

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Lol

"Women are just for sex. Ignore everything else." -SS

"You should only pursue women you like and care about." -SS
sosuave isn't just one person. and the latter is terrible advice in general, whereas the former is only good advice if you're not looking for anything long term or serious
 

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Lol

"Women are just for sex. Ignore everything else." -SS

"You should only pursue women you like and care about." -SS
I agree with the first but not with the second. I don't like or care about every woman I date, but I do want to **** them. That is my main goal. You start liking and caring and that's when the trouble starts.
 

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So there's a girl I want to ****.

Problem? Can't stand her. She's literally said to me that she's perfect. Red flag, I know. I won't go into all the other personality traits of hers that are awful.

Do I even bother with this? What would you guys do?
Does... not... com....pute.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Why not? You've never met a hot girl you wanted to **** even though she's a c*ntwaffle?
some people don't want to fvck girls whose personalities they don't like, they just go soft at the thought of it
 

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Does... not... com....pute.
yeah it seems weird to me too, depends on how your dating strategy works

if you're the kinda guy that never gets laid before date 4 and likes to pay for the dates, I can see why you wouldn't want to bother gaming someone with a nice body and a terrible personality lol.

or if you're looking for more than someone to bang once and forget about
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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yeah it seems weird to me too, depends on how your dating strategy works

if you're the kinda guy that never gets laid before date 4 and likes to pay for the dates, I can see why you wouldn't want to bother gaming someone with a nice body and a terrible personality lol.

or if you're looking for more than someone to bang once and forget about
Here's the thing. If you are only interested in the body then there will soon be a toy/ robot on the scene to take care of all your needs. Now envisage yourself with this fancy version of the blowup doll, and ask yourself whether anything be missing.
 

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So there's a girl I want to ****. She's probably a 7, but she's "my type," so to me her looks are higher than a 7.

Problem? Can't stand her. She's literally said to me that she's perfect. Red flag, I know. I won't go into all the other personality traits of hers that are awful.

Do I even bother with this? What would you guys do?
That's a tough one bro. Normally I would say go for it but if you can't stand her personality, even if she is attractive, I would move on.
 

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yes, there would be no audience for my jokes
Well, they are making inroads in the field of AI. You might never distinguish between pre-programed responses and real ones. Mind you, a lot of people might as well be robots today given the failure to think for oneself.

Yes, no humor, no love, and no appreciation of poetry.:rolleyes:

Phenomenal is the interface
Between crumbling land and crashing surf,
Where misty spray rises on sun-lit gleams
To coat the world in a border-like dream.
Here gannets on the up-draught glide and race
Out to sea and back to their nesting turf.
And here a painter on the harbor heads
Captures the scene which can hardly be said,
Where a bird appears like a psyche winged,
Plunging from black lava pock-marked cliffs
To catch the wind and the ecstatic lift,
To the marvel of spectators beneath.
 
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Mind you, a lot of people might as well be robots today given the failure to think for oneself.
agreed x1000, it's annoying when people try so hard to avoid thinking about stuff.

Phenomenal is the interface
Between crumbling land and crashing surf,
Where misty spray rises on sun-lit gleams
To coat the world in a border-like dream.
Here gannets on the up-draught glide and race
Out to sea and back to their nesting turf.
And here a painter on the harbor heads
Captures the scene which can hardly be said,
Where a bird appears like a psyche winged,
Plunging from pock-marked black lava cliffs
To catch the wind and the ecstatic lift,
To the marvel of spectators beneath.
try this one on for size(random poem I liked):

I was angry with my friend;
I told my wrath, my wrath did end.
I was angry with my foe:
I told it not, my wrath did grow.
And I water'd it in fears,
Night & morning with my tears:
And I sunned it with smiles,
And with soft deceitful wiles.
And it grew both day and night.
Till it bore an apple bright.
And my foe beheld it shine,
And he knew that it was mine.
And into my garden stole,
When the night had veil'd the pole;
In the morning glad I see;
My foe outstretched beneath the tree.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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