"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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pursue this chick or forget it?

spang

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allright theres this girl in my class who sits beside me i got the hots for. shes a 7 or 8 i would say. we have gotten pretty acquainted, and i think theres a connection...or at least i feel one. shes really nice and intelligent, seems like a great catch. i would ask her out but it seems pointless, i know ill get blown off. ill ask her out, she will get creeped out, she will bs me, then she will run away and never speak to me again.
i know youre going to give me the grow some balls and do it routine, i could ask her if i wanted to. it isnt that i think shes out of my league, its that she probably thinks shes out of my league. its just like, whats the point?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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spang

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coachD said:
You are the great catch.
sure i am. of course shes friendly with everybody what the hell was i thinking. maybe shes one of those types that flirts with everybody and they get the wrong idea.
 

Harry Wilmington

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Baby steps, my friend. You're focusing too much on the end result and putting pressure on yourself when you should be taking baby steps. Each step that allows you to have some form of success with this girl will boost your confidence in getting to the next step.

Remember: you're not dating someone because you're already in love with them; you're dating them to see if your curiosity about who they are is actually correct. So, don't go into it with all this pressure of "OMG, if I ask her out it's like I'm asking her to get married and I'll DIE if she rejects me!"

Baby steps. Step one: ask for the number. She'll either give it to you (possible interest) or she won't (no interest).

Step two: call her up or talk to her in class and ask her if she'd like to go with you someplace to do something. She'll either say "sure, when?" (possible interest) or - being a girl and not wanting to directly say "no" yet still seem nice - say she's busy, has a bf, doesn't have time to go out, etc. (no interest).

Step three: if she accepts the date, you take her out. During the date, you see if she tries to touch you (possible interest) or doesn't (possibly shy, most likely low interest); or, you try to touch her (hand hold or arm around her) and she either leans into it (possible interest) or jerks away from you (low interest).

Step four: if the date goes well and it's time to end the date, you go in for the kiss. Either she kisses you back (possible interest) or she gives you the cheek or backs away (no interest).

In all these steps, you're not being over-bearing or being too forceful; yet, at the same time, your moves are letting it be known you're interested, and her responses will let you know if she's interested.

Hope this helps!
 

yuppaz

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You seem to think that she is better then you. She isn't. She gets bad diarrhea sometimes and has stink breath on occasion. She is insecure about a lot of things and she is probably worried about what other people think a lot of the time. She's a human like the rest of us, not above you or below you by any means. If you want to ask her out, go ahead.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Uncharted

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I've been in your shoes. Here's the thing you have to remember:

If she's not interested now, she will never be interested. So you might as well ask her out. If she's not interested, you will probably never see her again after this class anyway. Go for it!
 
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