Pursue or Next?

[686]

Alright I have a little story to tell that I need some advice about from everyone.

This past week was my school's function, which was a type of casual prom. I was too busy to meet my date until the day before the function, when I went to visit her briefly at her workplace. She told my friend that I was cute and I caught her giving my friend an "I like what I see" type of look.

The next night I picked her up from her house and we small talked as we drove down to the hotel the function was at. I got the vibe that she was digging me and she was asking me a lot of questions. I noted that she asked me if I go out with a lot of girls, to which I answered I go out with a few because I'm really busy with other things. She also told me that I could probably hook up with a lot of girls at clubs.

So we're sitting on a table where she's comfortable because she knows almost everyone and so do I. It would've been akward to ask her to pay for the pictures although I paid for the bids since I just met her, so I just paid for the pictures as well. I don't like to dance and I told her that. After a while she got me dancing with her though, and although I may not be good, I did it. I had a good time, and I can only assume she did too. I had something to do early the next morning so I dropped her off at home that night and pulled the
686 (EC): You seem like a really cool person. We should hang out sometime.
Girl: Yeah we definitely should.
686: Alright cool, I'll call you up sometime.

So two nights later I call her up but she doesn't answer. She calls me back in the middle of a movie so I tell her I'm busy and will call her back the following day. I call her the next day and we small talk for a little while but right after I asked her what her schedule was for that week and she answered, she asked if she could call me back later. She never called me back though.

I called up my friend that hooked us up for the function and asked her if the girl had a good time. She said that she did, but that she had a boyfriend. Well that's news to me! They had just started going out on Christmas (two days before the function) so it has not been a long time. Last night the girl messaged me to wish me a happy new years to which I replied and added in a question asking her what she was doing the next night. She never replied to that either.

I could tell that she was digging me and I was almost positive that I could've pulled off a get together, although apparently I haven't yet. Do you guys think I should pursue her or next her? By the way, she's pretty hot and fun to be with.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

Pursue.

This chic is just playing phone games and that I have a boyfriend all of a sudden routine is played by alot of women when they think you lost interest.

P.S. From my experience once you've gone out they expect you to call the very next day or they'll chalk it up as you playing games.

 

[686]

Originally posted by Tha Realnezz
Pursue.

This chic is just playing phone games and that I have a boyfriend all of a sudden routine is played by alot of women when they think you lost interest.

P.S. From my experience once you've gone out they expect you to call the very next day or they'll chalk it up as you playing games.

Thanks for the advise. I would like to pursue this too. By the way, it was our friend that said she had a boyfriend, not the girl herself.

 

[686]

bump. Everyone agree with Real or not?

 

[sixtyfwee]

Pursue her, BUT make sure you are also working other angles.

She mentions that you probably get a lot of girls, this to me sounds like she is pre-qualifying you as high value. If she was completly uninterested she would never have called you back.

Call her and tell her, 'Its the new year, I had a great time with you the last time we were together, I think you could make a great freind. I'm a little busy on X, but would you prefer to get together on Z or Y?'

If she is playing games, the freind thing will confuse her.
If she she actually has a borefiend, you just LJBF her, but men are allowed reverse that Besides now she will wonder why she is not good enough for you to chase.

Final advice: WORK OTHER ANGLES TOO

Enjoy

 

[alphamale1]

i think she knows u know she has a bf

so maybe dont use the friend line
cos she probably not dum.

maybe u just call her and make her attracted to you
but dont show any interests in her just show her that u like talking to her but dont tell her that u want to be friends or more

then when she is hooked by all the attraction uve built and she starts calling u more keep amping the attraction up through the very enjoyable chat

then if she kisses u then make out with her but not **** her then say lets be friends and kiss her again.
that will mess with her and get her thinking about u. now she has to qualify herself cos she will think she isnt good enough to kiss u.

the way i see is when u built the attraction by doing everything u know with how to build attraction and she loves it, she have already qualified u in her eyes but she hasnt at all qualified.....all she has done is laugh at ur jokes and looked pretty.

If a girl knows she can get any guy just by laughing at ur jokes and looking pretty and being nice then shyt.......something has gone wrong.

 

[686]

Thanks for your guys' advice. I'll let you all know what happens.

 

[DeathDealer]

Phone games. And there's some AFC in you.

 

[686]

Originally posted by DeathDealer
Phone games. And there's some AFC in you.

I'll get it out. I let myself get caught off guard.

 

[686]

Well I called up this girl and she called me back a few hours later. My friend is going out with her friend and he told me that she thinks I'm really good looking and that I should ask her out, even though I was already planning on it. He along with one other person also told me that they don't know of any boyfriend she's supposed to have.

686: Hello?
HB: Hey what's up?
686: Sup HB. How've things been going?
HB: Pretty well, you?
686: Our pictures came in. They look really good.
HB: I hope I didn't ruin them.
686: No, it's fine. I realize everyone can't be as sexy as me. I've come to accept it.
HB *laughs*
686: So what're you doing this weekend? We should go out sometime, just get together.
HB: Well actually I work on friday, saturday, and sunday.
686: Wow that sucks! What time do you work until each day?
HB: On friday I work until 9 and saturday and sunday until 5. What day did you want to go out?
686: Friday night... hmm actually saturday.
HB: Hmm, can I get back to you about that? I'll call you later in the week to let you know.
686: Alright that's fine. Shoots, I'll talk to you later.
HB: Ok, bye.

There's not much to tell, but I wish I had told her to tell me soon because my schedule is filling up quickly. I'm not going to overanalyze such a short phone call so I'll just let you all know what happens. Let me know what you guys think.

 

[Paintballguy]

Just gotta play the waiting game now. If she is interested, she will call you back and make sure everything is set.

 

[686]

If she doesn't reply even though she's missing a great opportunity should I next her or keep pursuing her and call her back sometime?

 

[O Snap]

686

You have called this girl a couple of times to see what she has done, and she is either checking your interest level, or is not that interested. I was experiencing the same thing. I would call this girl to set something up, but she was busy that weekend, called her for next weekend, busy(for actual personal reasons i found out later). I then just called her one day and told her if she wanted to go out, just to give me a call. I never attemted to call her again, until she called me.

She says she will call you. If she likes you she will, if she doesn't...next! I think if you call her again, you come on as too needy.

 

[686]

Alright thanks for the advice.