"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Pursue or back off?

green69

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I met this girl at a friend's party just under 2 months ago. I only had a chance to talk to her for like 10 minutes before my ride left and then, being the playa that I am (lol), added her on facebook a few days later. Anyways we sent some messages through facebook back and forth and we decided to meet up at school for some coffee since we both go to the same university. Things went pretty well and we had lots to talk about and lots in common. So a few weeks later we met up again at the school and again things went fine. Both these instances she said she could 'probably make it' but would text me later to double check - and she did.

About two weeks ago I asked her if she wanted to see a movie with me, and again she said probably yes but she would have to make sure she finished her HW in time and she said yea. The meeting went fine we had a nice conversation afterwards and texted each other a couple times etc. but now i'm not sure how to proceed. I want to invite her out for a drink but while I think she might be interested, she hasn't really offered/invited me out at all. She hasn't texted me at all out of the blue, which I am used to from girls, to ask what's up or whatever. I always have to do all the initiating for everything...though she hasn't turned me down or declined any of my invites.

Should I back off a little and wait for her to put in some effort or should I keep going since she has accepted all the invites so far?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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jigga23

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Yea dude back off she will text or call you for sure. Shes obviously interested.
 

COD

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active diss-interest works wonders!!!, dont over-compensate by transforming into a wuss
 
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