"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Pursue or back off?

green69

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I met this girl at a friend's party just under 2 months ago. I only had a chance to talk to her for like 10 minutes before my ride left and then, being the playa that I am (lol), added her on facebook a few days later. Anyways we sent some messages through facebook back and forth and we decided to meet up at school for some coffee since we both go to the same university. Things went pretty well and we had lots to talk about and lots in common. So a few weeks later we met up again at the school and again things went fine. Both these instances she said she could 'probably make it' but would text me later to double check - and she did.

About two weeks ago I asked her if she wanted to see a movie with me, and again she said probably yes but she would have to make sure she finished her HW in time and she said yea. The meeting went fine we had a nice conversation afterwards and texted each other a couple times etc. but now i'm not sure how to proceed. I want to invite her out for a drink but while I think she might be interested, she hasn't really offered/invited me out at all. She hasn't texted me at all out of the blue, which I am used to from girls, to ask what's up or whatever. I always have to do all the initiating for everything...though she hasn't turned me down or declined any of my invites.

Should I back off a little and wait for her to put in some effort or should I keep going since she has accepted all the invites so far?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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jigga23

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Yea dude back off she will text or call you for sure. Shes obviously interested.
 

COD

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active diss-interest works wonders!!!, dont over-compensate by transforming into a wuss
 
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