The sad thing is that "qua;ity girls" are few and far between.
I tend to think that since I simply enjoy women, and appreciate their company, as long they're not being b*tches, then it's fine.
I don't have this Outcome Dependancy really. I just like interacting and being around women. If they porve themselves as someone worthy of my time, I will step it up. I am always going to improve, and learn,and grow, no matter if there's a woman aroudn or not.
I've always had a Spartan /Solider like mentality. And my martial art training really, really brought this out of me. So I can have a detached sense, yet at the same time still be in touch with normal human emotions. And becaue I have a generally Positive attitude, about myself, my world, and the people in it, I don't have this anxiety about it.
So I don't see this scarcity mentality, or desperation, because I have so many other things that I have to take care of.
I love women. I relaly do.
I find something sexy and cute about just about every woman I see.
But I don't necessarily get overly emotionally invested.
And I don't look at women for validation.
You know, I'm not gonna lie, being acknowledged and given compiments from women feels great.
But it cannot be a necessity. It will become like a drug, a crutch. This is bad.
I'm looking for a good time, and if th woman is real, and she's interested I will look into perhaps look into being exclusive. But a lot of women, believe iot or not, are not looking fro LTRs. And you have to weed throug them. And you can only do that well, by not being attached so easily.Understand their tactics and games.
Don't be so easily swayed. Don't get carried away withyour emotions. Don't let them define you, and never accept their opinion as being the Last Word on you. No one has the right to Judge you. ANd certainly , not man hating , resentful man hating B*tch is going to have power over me.
Don't give away the farm,man. Understand she's not the center of your world, the Be All End All. ENjoy her. It';s ok to be genuine in enjoying and appreciatingnher femeninity. I love womne, dude. But they're not going to get to me, not to my core.
That's resever for the good woman. The woman who is sincere, loving, giving, and wants to be by my side. She's in Love with me, not just what I have.
-Stay healthy.
-Sleep well.
-Eat well. Pay attention to nuritious healthy foods.
-Have hobbies that allow you to relax and destress. And hobbies that challenge you, and stimulate you. Alway, always have some hobby to do. Bikes, working out, cars, philosophy, martial arts, painting,yoga, zen, photography, etc etc.
-Think positive thoughts.
-Act correctly, think correctly, and speak correctly.
-Understand women are not your enemy. If you view them as the enemy, it will color all your interactions with them.
-Pay attention to any negative thoughts, feelings, and anxieties that come up when thinking abou t or dealing with women. There are deeply held beliefs which are toxic to you. And have been there for years. Do something about it. Correct them.
-Always do what you say. And say what you mean. Integrity is the uncompromising of your bvalues. Don't be the pendulum, that is swayed. Don't allow yourself to be manipulated.
-Do your daily meditations and affirmations. Keep your mind and your body and your soul healthy. And primed for action. Believe that you ARE a good person. You DO deserve love and companionship. And that you are never truly alone. The truth is, as much as it hurts for me to say this to you guys, is that loneliness and being alone is a choice. Not having women in your life has been YOUR CHOICE. It's unnatural. And some of you are really feeling it. Because as Males,it is normal and natural to have female companionship consistently. What you feel as anxiety or mixed feelings is a result of your upbringing and programming form the media and society today. this is why we condone so strongly the "disconnecting from the Matrix." It is real. And you are feeling its effects now.
-Always look for a win/win outcome. Especially with those who are good to you, like friends, family, and the good women you love.
-Don't ever take thosel oved ones for granted. You never know, one day they may be here, the next POOF! they may be gone forever. the same goes for you. DOn't be the lazy, fat, slob with no passion, or goals, or ambitions. Don't be a waster or drain.
-Seek to give value to others. Help bring them up when possible. Don't ever be the downer, or buzz killer. You'll find yourself in strange circumstances with people who have different views than yours, don't ever, ever judge them. If you don't like it, simply extract yourself from the situation. Don't be their judge.
-Recognize the good things in your life, and value them. And especially, GIVE THANKS for them. Every day.
