PumpNightmare
Don Juan
I went to the bar again tonight and actualy made some approaches for the first time, so I'm going to use this as my approach journal.
I'm 22 years old, 6ft, 165lbs, so I'm decent looking. Right now I'm trying to rid my fear of approaching girls. Most of my initial approaches are going to be in bar/club type places. I'm too nervous to cold approach in public, at least to nervous when sober. I open up a lot more with a little alcohol. I know I shouldn't use it as a crutch, but for now it's the best I have to keep my calm enough to approach. Because of my class schedule, once a week is all I can do for bars/clubs. I also go to the mall and arcade on Saturdays also, so I might try to find time to approach there. Although, my main purpose really is to play Pump It Up and In the Groove, dancing games, but I'll keep an eye out. Just need to be careful at those venues. Too much jailbait.
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Arrived at Bullwinkles at 10:40PM. Was nervous like the last time, got myself a beer, sat down and relaxed to the music. Did this for about an hour, but I moved around to different places. I was sitting on a table upstairs and made EC with a HB7. It was crowded and she said I was in a good place (blocking her way, like everyone else). I looked at her and agreed it was a good place and she should have a seat and chat and to tell me her name, touched her shoulder lightly when saying this. She was still smiling and said she had to get to her friends and was off. Next I went downstairs and eyed a HB6 and 8, and the 6 was obviously drunk. Gave some eye contact smiled, they smiled back, I asked them how things were going. They're like fine. I asked if I could sit down by them and they're like sure. I asked for their names and they complied Then the HB6 said I should be them drinks (oh hell no! I think I read enough here to know what that means). I told her that she should be the one buying me a drink. She laughed and started insisting, and as much as I wanted to, I refrained. They got up and "went to the bathroom".
I moved on to the dance floor. I'm not going to list the girls I danced with, but whenever I saw a lone girl, or two...sometimes three, I tried dancing with them. Sometimes i asked, sometimes I just went up to them and started swaying my arms like I assumed they already wanted to dance with me. I had some good results. I got two girls to dance with me in the center a on three occassions. I tried ask them their names while dancing and asked how they were enjoying themselves, just to show I had some intrest. One HB6 I was able to grinding and she seem to be giving good EC and seem interested, and got close to her and complimented that her hair smelled good. Then she said she was there with a boyfriend Alright, still dancing and she said she needed to get back to her friends. Perhaps I wierded her out (love good smelling hair). I tried dancing with some other girls I just run into in the crowd, and sometimes they were with a friend.
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Overall, a lot better then last week. I actualy made a few approaches and danced a little more. Next week I want to try to keep some of these approaches at a full conversation instead of saying "hi, whats your name? having fun tonight? which college you go to? etc."
Any constructive criticism on my approach and/or the journal is welcomed.
I'm 22 years old, 6ft, 165lbs, so I'm decent looking. Right now I'm trying to rid my fear of approaching girls. Most of my initial approaches are going to be in bar/club type places. I'm too nervous to cold approach in public, at least to nervous when sober. I open up a lot more with a little alcohol. I know I shouldn't use it as a crutch, but for now it's the best I have to keep my calm enough to approach. Because of my class schedule, once a week is all I can do for bars/clubs. I also go to the mall and arcade on Saturdays also, so I might try to find time to approach there. Although, my main purpose really is to play Pump It Up and In the Groove, dancing games, but I'll keep an eye out. Just need to be careful at those venues. Too much jailbait.
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Arrived at Bullwinkles at 10:40PM. Was nervous like the last time, got myself a beer, sat down and relaxed to the music. Did this for about an hour, but I moved around to different places. I was sitting on a table upstairs and made EC with a HB7. It was crowded and she said I was in a good place (blocking her way, like everyone else). I looked at her and agreed it was a good place and she should have a seat and chat and to tell me her name, touched her shoulder lightly when saying this. She was still smiling and said she had to get to her friends and was off. Next I went downstairs and eyed a HB6 and 8, and the 6 was obviously drunk. Gave some eye contact smiled, they smiled back, I asked them how things were going. They're like fine. I asked if I could sit down by them and they're like sure. I asked for their names and they complied Then the HB6 said I should be them drinks (oh hell no! I think I read enough here to know what that means). I told her that she should be the one buying me a drink. She laughed and started insisting, and as much as I wanted to, I refrained. They got up and "went to the bathroom".
I moved on to the dance floor. I'm not going to list the girls I danced with, but whenever I saw a lone girl, or two...sometimes three, I tried dancing with them. Sometimes i asked, sometimes I just went up to them and started swaying my arms like I assumed they already wanted to dance with me. I had some good results. I got two girls to dance with me in the center a on three occassions. I tried ask them their names while dancing and asked how they were enjoying themselves, just to show I had some intrest. One HB6 I was able to grinding and she seem to be giving good EC and seem interested, and got close to her and complimented that her hair smelled good. Then she said she was there with a boyfriend Alright, still dancing and she said she needed to get back to her friends. Perhaps I wierded her out (love good smelling hair). I tried dancing with some other girls I just run into in the crowd, and sometimes they were with a friend.
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Overall, a lot better then last week. I actualy made a few approaches and danced a little more. Next week I want to try to keep some of these approaches at a full conversation instead of saying "hi, whats your name? having fun tonight? which college you go to? etc."
Any constructive criticism on my approach and/or the journal is welcomed.
