"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Pulling a Japanese girl with a boyfriend... advice please

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Alright... this is a bit complicated but...

I work a tour guide-type job for international tourists that come to the area to learn more about American culture, English language, blah blah blah.

So I meet this one girl from the group (who is very, very fyne) who speaks the best english and is the same age as I am. After doing the normal tour guide-ish duties, I offer to take her and her friends into the downtown area of the city for fun and they, not knowing anyone from the U.S. at this point, accept. I take them out, and I have a good repoire with all four of the girls I went with (I think one of them is interested in me). Anywho, I offer to go out with them again sometime, which they accept, and we did this past Monday. Upon going home, the Japanese girl I'm trying to go for (who happens to be the only one with a boyfriend back home) was doing some kino on my arm (which, from my experience from natives from Japan, is incredibly rare culturally after only knowing someone for a few days, muchless a lifetime).

Around 9ish as I'm escorting her and her 3 friends home she asks me if I'm tired. I say no, she makes a comment that it's because 'my legs are long.' I play around with her comment, making her laugh, which she responds with "are you hungry?" I say yes, and ask her likewise, she says yes, I ask her if she wants to go eat somewhere later, and she says she wants to go home first so a friend of hers (whom she implied was female) could join us.

We show up at the building and she tells me to come with her to discuss with her friend where we should eat. I tell her I can't come in because visitors aren't allowed inside after certain hours (in actuality I said this because I've had past problems with the law in this building... the cops told security to have me arrested on-sight if I am ever spotted inside again... long story lol).

When I said that, she said we'll have to do it some other time then.

I think this definitely hurt my chances, but she's going to be here for 4 more weeks before going back to Japan, so I've got plenty of time to make a more significant move. Keeping in mind that I can't EVER be seen inside this girl's building (I'm 100% confident I'll be arrested since my being 'banned' from this building was drug-related), that her English is good-yet-far from ideal, and that she has a boyfriend waiting back home... what should be my next move?

(Sidenote: Kinda hard to suggest we go back to my place either... I don't have a car)
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ANY help would be appreciated here... really, anything lol...
 

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my advice: dont go after girls with boyfriends. not worth the headache


just tell her you dont date girls who are in relationships. if she has any class, she'll respect your restraint and you will look more attractive.

but you can always keep flirting, and have her on the backburner until shes a bit more "available"
 

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ignore the above
 

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Hm. Is there a bus system or taxi or anything to bring her over to your place? If that can't be arranged, how far apart are the two places? It might be possible to hang out with her at point A, close to her place, then head to points B, C, and D, which are all closer to your house than the one before it, but that's really iffy. Wish I could help more than that, but the logistics of the situation are just awful.

Anyhow, now I'm curious. Post here with what you finally do, even if it's just a worst-case scenario.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I don't get why some guys want to pursuit girls with boyfriends?

isn't it like shooting in the dark? whatever you do, so still wont get her because she has a BF!

there are so many girls out there and you're trying to get one who is taken? I just don't get the logic behind it...
 

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Originally posted by FunkyMillion
I don't get why some guys want to pursuit girls with boyfriends?

isn't it like shooting in the dark? whatever you do, so still wont get her because she has a BF!

there are so many girls out there and you're trying to get one who is taken? I just don't get the logic behind it...

probably because about half of married women cheat, and even more girls with BFs cheat.
 

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well, some fobs are hard to pu if you're not their nationality because they still have that thing about not wanting to date out of their nationality 1st and race 2nd, but generally they're pretty easy
 

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Simple One ! ... dont even bother with em , too up tight and reserved. Most of them have a pre-arranged marriage waiting for them anyways. If you want an Asian girl, you're gonna need a fvckload of love potion number 8 to get what you want out of these chicklits.

Try other girls bud ....
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Originally posted by FunkyMillion
I don't get why some guys want to pursuit girls with boyfriends?

isn't it like shooting in the dark? whatever you do, so still wont get her because she has a BF!

there are so many girls out there and you're trying to get one who is taken? I just don't get the logic behind it...
Well said. Have some moral.
 

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Originally posted by Sexual
Well said. Have some moral.
Because it's about ****ing her, getting your rocks off, getting her rocks off, and everyone having a good time. He's in Japan, she's in the US.

She might as well be single. Happens everywhere in the world, guys and girls.

The BF is essentially a NONISSUE. What's bugging him is bad logistics and his own weak inner game.

SH.IT.

They have LOVE HOTELS right next to CLUBS that you can RENT BY THE FU.CKING HOUR. So yeah, there's a WHOLE LOT OF FU.CKING GOING ON in Japan.

You can either join in on the fun or the chump whacking off on the side.
 

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For giggles, tell her:

Anata wa utsukushi desu.

(You are beautiful)

Then tell her:

Sono chibusa o misete kudasai.

(very politely: "Show me your t!ts please." or more literally, "Your breasts, please let me see them.")

I believe that's right on, but have only taken a few Japanese classes so it might be a bit off.

I did it once, I had to of course act like I knew what the first line meant but not the second line. It's great for a sex talk segue.
 
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