pulled in a girl with a boyfriend, what now?

[mattathensga]

yeah, I've been shot at too. I used to be around junkies all the time. I have that fear, and I FIRST and foremost don't want her to get hurt, especially if that situation would arrise, thats why I've taken the advice from the others, and laid off, backed off, until she makes her decision... LOOK> i want THIS part of the thread to DIE>>> I am getting ready to get sent into Iraq within the next year. I have no fear of death, whether it be at the hands of a junkie, or in combat, for the freedom and protection of a Nation, or the freedom and protection of one individual within my life. I only fear for the safety of those I love, and I would GLADLY lay down my life on the sacrifical alter to die in their place. BUT, in that same breath, if Someone, whether it me a junkie, flunkie, or Iraqi, tries to kill me they better be really fast, really talented, and a damn good shot, and get me before I get them. Can we NOW PLEASE F"IN focus on how I can get her and I together in a relationship? and not what COULD happen of this Prlck and I go head to head.... chances are he'll meet me and run scared anyways....

my many questions are:
what has someone in this position done to get rid of the other guy? ( dating a involved girl, who thinks that she's in love with him, and falling for me)

and, what can I do to convince her that I am not just interested in her as a sex thing... I know most of it, show compassion, and concern for her outside of sex, but the sex seems to always end up as the focal point of our current relationship... which I have boldly against my second brains opinion and LOUD objections, denied from both of us for the past few days....