"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You asked her out...wait for her reply.

If she declines, but at least seems interested, call her again sometime.

If she doesn't answer at all, she's ignorant and you should drop her. Her being an "HB10" does not grant her the right to be rude and ignorant toward you.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Originally posted by squirrels
You asked her out...wait for her reply.

If she declines, but at least seems interested, call her again sometime.

If she doesn't answer at all, she's ignorant and you should drop her. Her being an "HB10" does not grant her the right to be rude and ignorant toward you.
good advice
 

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yes.. she gave u her number because she saw something interesting at u.


call her after 2 days ALLWAYS. if u call her before 2 days it`s too fast and that means u are needy/desperate. if u call her after 2 day (day3) that means u don`t care about her.. that`s too much. after 2 days it`s the best.


and allways lead !! ALLWAYS!

tell her "ok.. let`s go sunday in x place.. we meet at y spot at H hour." and leave it like that. YOU RULE not her.


and with the atm card i thinck its bull**** that she want`s u to pay for her.


at all costs.. try never to pay anything for a chick, unless u are in a relationship with her. ;)


Regards,
Gap Ro PUA
 

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Originally posted by The_Shezzler
well she asked me when i was gonna take her to the movies - so i suggested we go on wednesday - she said she wud have to check her money situation first has someone had stolen her atm card.

Oh 1 more thing - and this is a different girl - does her giving me her phone number mean she likes me?

cheers
If it's a legit phone number, it means she WANTS you to get in TOUCH with her, yes.

Don't worry about it so much. I guarantee you didn't land these girls by worrying. Don't start now. :p
 

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Originally posted by The_Shezzler
well she asked me when i was gonna take her to the movies - so i suggested we go on wednesday - she said she wud have to check her money situation first has someone had stolen her atm card.

Oh 1 more thing - and this is a different girl - does her giving me her phone number mean she likes me?

cheers
ha no it doesnt mean she likes you. It just means shes got that initial interest which is good, shes ready for you to give her your best shot, if you do good that means shell be into you, if not you can forget about her. I mean she likes you but not like having sex with you kinda liking.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'll give you my (self-proclaimed) professional opinion :

All these texts that you've been sending this girl would have been better received as phone calls.

One of the mad players I used to hang out with taught me that one night. We were at the bar, and he was like watch this. He walked up to the girl, started talking, then within about 10-20 min they were on the dancefloor making out.

They eventually swapped numbers near the end of the night, when we all left early for an after-party. About a half-hour after the bar ended, he called her and just was like, "Hey, I'm just calling to make sure that you made it home allright. Ok good, I'll talk to you soon so we can get together again. Ok, goodnight."

Then, after he hangs up he mentioned to all of us in the car, as we're pulling up to the after party. "Chicks love that stuff, it shows that you are caring and shyt." That girl, btw, ended up being his flavor of the week.

Let's talk about this from the level of rapport. When you build rapport with someone, whether it happens or not depends alot on your body language (70%), your voice tone (24%) and the words (6%). Therefore, when you are in person it's easiest to build rapport with someon, because it's your body that helps you out. When you are talking on the phone, your ability to build (or build on the rapport that you previously built) is about 30% as effective as in person because all the other person has to go by is the voice tone and the words themselves. So, when you are texting (and the same goes for MSN, YAHOO, etc) all the other person gets are the words themselves... so you better friggin be good with your words, or have a good rapport with her already because your only working your game at the 6% level.

Mind you, 6% is all that those people that meet online get to start with, and that works for some people. And if all you got is a phone conversation your still at 30% which is alot better than nothing (and is part of the reason why people are compelled to gesture as tho the person is next to them even if they both have no chance of seeing each other). Why would you cut yourself short any more than necessary?

(I hope I explained that well).

I also regretfully inform you that you are dead in the water with this girl. UNLESS SHE CALLS YOU! in which case you would have already gamed her enough that you will either get a date or a definitive answer.
 

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You are in trouble and you dont even know it. You have the wrong mindset. Just because she is a HB10, you think you need to act different and do everything perfect. If this girl was a HB6, do you think you would come on here asking for expert advice? In general, treat all girls you date the same. Don't think you have to impress her just because she is a HB10.
 

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Originally posted by bud_2005
You are in trouble and you dont even know it. You have the wrong mindset. Just because she is a HB10, you think you need to act different and do everything perfect. If this girl was a HB6, do you think you would come on here asking for expert advice? In general, treat all girls you date the same. Don't think you have to impress her just because she is a HB10.

We tend to forget that more than often..

Best advice yet.

Oh yeah, I liked what So pimp its scary said, too
 

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Originally posted by bud_2005
You are in trouble and you dont even know it. You have the wrong mindset. Just because she is a HB10, you think you need to act different and do everything perfect. If this girl was a HB6, do you think you would come on here asking for expert advice? In general, treat all girls you date the same. Don't think you have to impress her just because she is a HB10.
I agree too. Good advice!

Try to keep your cool and stop thinking too much about it. Don't think that sending her a text at a particular time will make any difference because that's nonsense. The only way it will make a difference is if you are too eager or persistent.

She may be a HB10 in your mind, but in her own she may just be a HB6, so as bud2005 said, don't do anything different.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Minor correction, you did not PULL an HB10. You've simply number closed her. To say you pulled her implied you venue changed her to your place or hers and had your way with her.
 
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