Pull mode and normal mode

[Eternal_water]

One mistake I make is giving myself pull mode and normal mode.

In normal mode I'm focusing on having fun and not even thinking about picking up.

In pull mode I aim to pick up and I tense up.


In normal mode I sometimes get IOI's and I don't register them untill ages afterwards.

I was out last night with some old friends, we were one chair short, I see a good looking woman sitting on her own with a drink with about 5 empty chairs around her, I casually go over and ask if they are taken.

She is looked 28ish, I'm 21 but shes giving IOI's like full eye contact, a come and talk with me smile, tilting her head to one side curling her hair through her fingers, laughing even though what I said wasn't funny etc.

I said thanks, took the chair and left. She was sat on her own for quite a while longer and eventually left. I didn't even register IOI's untill today, I hadn't gone over there to pick her up so much as pick a chair up so I didn't even realise.

(not that I would have known how to open anyway - any ideas anyone?)

Then we go into the club, there were 4 in our group, me and 3 girls. I thought "hello social proof" Pull mode on. Didn't get any IOI's for the rest of the night.

 

[Fly By Night]

You answered your own question: You tense up.

Let me tell you a story:
In high school, I was on the bus with my bros and we were lmfao'ing and joking around. Eventually, the hilarity attracted nearby girls that we starting talking to. I decided to continue joking around with one of them because I was already comfortable from laughing. (the chemicals you release from laughter do wonders) I did up front flirty things like calling her cute, sitting next to her, hugging her, etc. The next day she asked if I wanted to go out with her sometime (like a date).

The point of this story is that, your game has to be natural. I never even knew PUA's existed back then and I was doing great with them because I was calm, relaxed, and most importantly, sexual with them. And don't forget to have FUN.

 

[JohnChops]

You answered your own question: You tense up.

Let me tell you a story:
In high school, I was on the bus with my bros and we were lmfao'ing and joking around. Eventually, the hilarity attracted nearby girls that we starting talking to. I decided to continue joking around with one of them because I was already comfortable from laughing. (the chemicals you release from laughter do wonders) I did up front flirty things like calling her cute, sitting next to her, hugging her, etc. The next day she asked if I wanted to go out with her sometime (like a date).

The point of this story is that, your game has to be natural. I never even knew PUA's existed back then and I was doing great with them because I was calm, relaxed, and most importantly, sexual with them. And don't forget to have FUN.

thats right there +1

 

[Mike32ct]

I can relate. When I'm not in pull mode or game mode, I get more IOIs but I don't realize them until later because it's the farthest thing from my mind.

There is nothing more confident than a guy that isn't trying to pick up women.

 

[Zerro]

That's why I've been training myself not to have a pull mode and instead pay attention at all times.