yungahdubz
Senior Don Juan
I'm going to be talking in front of a crowd in a few days time, and was just looking for some tips. I'm not nervous about public speaking, I'd just like some pointers to make my speech more charismatic, fun etc. 
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Public Speaking
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I attended a presentation recently, and one of the presenters was obviously very smart and knew what he was talking about, but could improve on some of these areas:
- Eliminate nervous ticks, which makes the audience lose confidence in you quickly (ie, playing with hands, leaning back, wobbling, laughing)
- Maintain the volume of your voice. If something comes out wrong, and there's confusion in the room or laughter, don't quickly get loud and say "No well blah blah!!" instead, calmly say "Let me reword that" or "What I'm trying to say is"
- Maintain confidence and speak calmly. Pretend everyone is paying $1000 to hear you speak. Everything you have to say is gold. Allow a bit of time after certain statements for it to sink in with people and repeat things if necessary
- Jokes or funny stories that are related to your material are great. Keep them short
- Build rapport with your audience, simply by being personable. They will pay more attention and be more open to asking questions or requesting clarification. Everyone should feel like they are engaged in a conversation with you, where you are teaching them something
That's all I can think of right now, hope it helps
- Eliminate nervous ticks, which makes the audience lose confidence in you quickly (ie, playing with hands, leaning back, wobbling, laughing)
- Maintain the volume of your voice. If something comes out wrong, and there's confusion in the room or laughter, don't quickly get loud and say "No well blah blah!!" instead, calmly say "Let me reword that" or "What I'm trying to say is"
- Maintain confidence and speak calmly. Pretend everyone is paying $1000 to hear you speak. Everything you have to say is gold. Allow a bit of time after certain statements for it to sink in with people and repeat things if necessary
- Jokes or funny stories that are related to your material are great. Keep them short
- Build rapport with your audience, simply by being personable. They will pay more attention and be more open to asking questions or requesting clarification. Everyone should feel like they are engaged in a conversation with you, where you are teaching them something
That's all I can think of right now, hope it helps
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
yungahdubz
Senior Don Juan
cheers