"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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cNfny

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ok my only real problem that i've noticed and picked up on from other's responses is, sometimes when i speak my words come out mumbled or muffled, almost as if i'm speaking through a glass door or something.

i dont know why this happens but i hate it because i'll constantly get people saying "what?" "i didnt hear you" etc

this is terrible especially in cases where i say a funny remark and repeating it kills the moment.

if i'm one on one with a person this isnt the issue but with a small crowd or more i feel like its such an effort to be heard. almost like if i speak too loud i'll sound like i'm at struggle with my words. any advice?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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haha I have the same problem.. so I practice singing r&b in my spare time. and it actually works, cause you're really projecting your voice.
you don't have to have a golden voice to work on this, you just gotta learn how to boost your range of sound. practice being LOUD, yelling even, shouting hey to people... that kind of stuff.

when you speak too loud in a crowd, try speaking slower than usual because you'll have more chance to think and get the right tones down from what you're saying.
 

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I used to struggle with this problem

One thing that could be the cause is dehydration. Your voice will be very weak if your vocal cords are not lubricated enough. Could be flem too. Drink more water

It could also be occuring on a subconscious level. For example, you don't think what you have to say is worthy of attention, so it comes out inaudible

You shouldn't have to feel like you're yelling to be heard, because it'll be obvious that you're trying to be loud. If it feels like you have to yell, then you're simply using your voice incorrectly. Practice using your voice in private, try resonating from your head, throat, belly, see which comes out best. If using your voice correctly, you should be able to talk to someone across the length of your school's gym with minimal effort. Eventually it'll happen on a subconscious level. Search Google for some exercises
 

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Bible_Belt said:
project with your stomach. talk from within your chest
how do you learn this feeling though?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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this situation can also arise due to the fact tht ur mind n tounge r not co-ordinatin well with each othr.

sumtimes v jst wish to speak off somethin n get done with it!!! the tongue mumbles off some words in a hasty fashion while the mind has nothin new to offer... so u start focussin on what to speak next n loose the focus on wht n how u r speakin at tht very moment.

a solution to this can b in the form of speakin at a steady speed-accordin to ur own comfort level. so tht the chain of expressions n matter b/w the mind n the tongue doesn't get disrupted midway.
speak slowly n co ordinate the thoughts of the mind with ur tounge.. don't rush.. this way u can also keep a continuous check on ur colume n physical gestures... cuz the mind doesn't hav to worry abt what to say next!

hope it helps.

stay beautiful.
 
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