Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Survival of the fittest.Snow Plowman said:90% WILL NEVER EVEN TRY OR DO MUCH
5% WILL TRY AND GIVE UP
4% WILL BE DECENT
1% WILL BE LIVING THE LIFESTYLE AND HAVE CHOICE
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Survival of the fittest.Snow Plowman said:90% WILL NEVER EVEN TRY OR DO MUCH
5% WILL TRY AND GIVE UP
4% WILL BE DECENT
1% WILL BE LIVING THE LIFESTYLE AND HAVE CHOICE
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Love the post, I do not even have a 1,000 cold approaches (for numbers or such) under my belt, but I do have close to 750 under my belt asking for assistance for money (non-profit work), numbers, or new friends. Your correct that each one is different and they are all rather fun. You do learn something new each and every time.Snow Plowman said:90% WILL NEVER EVEN TRY OR DO MUCH
5% WILL TRY AND GIVE UP
4% WILL BE DECENT
1% WILL BE LIVING THE LIFESTYLE AND HAVE CHOICE
I don't know why anyone is scared majority of people don't even do cold approaches so they have nothing to worry about. Most here are just AFCs wanting to get laid or have a gf. What I call it "They just want to be loved".
There is only the few who actually want to improve themselves as a person and so they go at this to the extreme so it becomes apart of there life. Others will try but never have the actual drive to go as hard but thats ok they'll still see many changes in there life.
The rest are just diking around and thats the majority. I don't even exaggerate about 90% not really doing much, they just like the feeling of knowing others are getting success. Think I'm lieing...
- How many people are focused on One specific Chick?
- How many people ask the most basic questions? (I'm not talking about newbies, I'm talking about guys who've been on sites like this for years)
- How many people are going out 4 or more days a week?
Like seriously, how many people actually has 1,000 cold approaches under there belt after being in this game for the least 6 months. I know the guys with there Egos always try to rationalize it as "That's to much" but those are the same guys who aren't getting no where with this and wasting there time.
There is never too much approaches because cold approaching is one of the most fun things to do and at the same time your improving yourself.
It really comes down to who wants it bad enough, if there willing to go through the pain then they will do it. It's only those who are willing to go the distance that will actually be part of that 5% who actually real good or good enough.
Most don't even realize how hard it actually is, people think its just getting laid when it is far from that. To consistently meet a chick and having sex with her anywhere from a few mins to a few hours takes skill. To meet a chick in specific situations with specific logistics takes skill. In the end you improve who you are as a person and your overall social skills. You could be anywhere, anytime and create a fun vibe in the venue. You can talk to everyone and have a great interaction with everyone, whether its a 5 year old boy to a 92 year old woman...
Your not just getting specific women you want, you are attractive to women in general. Women are Super attracted to you and they are drawn to you. It changes your overall life, the unpredictability of each interaction is what makes every set new and fresh. You never know what will happen infield.
Heck I remember the first day meeting guys from the community thinking it was just going to be a few street sarges, we bump into there friends, they're having a party, a few street sarges brings me to a houseparty with a bunch of college chicks, I was expecting to be home at 11 at night instead it was more like 6am in the morning. Same as when I playfully told a chick that she' taking to red lobster and she actually did...You never know what will happen in any set good or bad, thats the fun of it all (to me at least) but most people can't enjoy the interactions because there desperate just to get some ***** to say to there friends "I fuk hot chicks" (poor guys)
But again most don't even make it to "hi"
Interesting. I do get to hi with all women and make eye contact with everyone and sometimes I do make conversation but I'm not actually "cold approaching" yet. It has been fun though. Though at the bar this weekend I did get a little practice in, kept my frame, got the girl laughing, that's enough for now.Snow Plowman said:There is never too much approaches because cold approaching is one of the most fun things to do and at the same time your improving yourself.
If you don't use canned lines (especially those from best selling books) what's there to worry about?SinJester said:Found this in the mature man forum, really ads evidence towards my preposal.
http://groups.google.com/group/alt.seduction.fast/msg/1ed905510172e22d
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Wait a second, guy's using pickup lines like "Who lies more, men or women?" or "Did you see the two women fighting outside?" is the increased competition we're worried about?DonGorgon said:Well as men become more and more desperate and competition increases for getting women, you will see more and more PUAs and such... HOw will women respond??? Well Women will get more and more power as men get more and more desperate and the women will get very very picky with very high often unrealistic standard forcing men to go through even more BS....
I DID SORT OF TAKE IT IN ANOTHER DIRECTION ....LOL I waS THINKING ABOUT WHY SO MANY WOMEN HAS ATTITUDE THESE DAYS WHE N APPROACHED BY A LINE USER OR NON LIEBN USER...Francisco d'Anconia said:Wait a second, guy's using pickup lines like "Who lies more, men or women?" or "Did you see the two women fighting outside?" is the increased competition we're worried about?These are the guys who will allow women to get more power??? What kind of power specifically? And why shouldn't they be picky? They should be able to recognize a quality guy from some desperate line slinger without any substance. If they can't they deserve whatever they end up with.
I say bring those losers on, the more the better. It'll make the rest of us stand out even more without us trying harder. SEND OUT THE CLONES!!!DonGorgon said:I DID SORT OF TAKE IT IN ANOTHER DIRECTION ....LOL I waS THINKING ABOUT WHY SO MANY WOMEN HAS ATTITUDE THESE DAYS WHE N APPROACHED BY A LINE USER OR NON LIEBN USER...
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.