PU today: Good convo for a while, but it died

[One on One]

I was waiting to get on the subway home and I spot this cute chick waiting as well. I think about approaching, but I can't think of an opener. She notices me and kinda steps away a little bit so I think she's not interested. Anyways, then we get on the train. I get on after her and sit down right next to her.

I don't speak to her for a few minutes, sitting there in silence, but then I decide to break the ice. I noticed she had a backpack so I asked if she went to college in the city. She explained she is working in the city. We talk about a few introductory things like her job, my college, where we've lived, etc. We exchange names. It was going well. She was definitely making an effort to keep the conversation going, but she was shy too so she would elaborate on responses and ask follow-up questions to me, but she wouldn't initiate many new topics.

I was certain she was interested, but I ran out of things to say. So, we didn't talk the last 5-10 minutes of the subway ride. I had to get off and I said it was nice meeting her and she said the same. I noticed her eyeing me as I got off the train.

I should have number closed and I am 90% certain it would have been successful. However, despite that, I need some tips on how to build more rapport. I just ran out of topics with her. Even though we were silent towards the end, I still could have asked for her number and gotten it, but it would have been socially awkward since it wasn't in the natural flow of convo. On the same token, it would have been awkward to get a number then sit for 5-10 minutes in silence the rest of the ride.

Help me out here, guys, for the future.

 

[Big Pappy]

Experience is the best teacher here. Go practice some more. Talk to them about tired everybody looks on the subway and how they should have cabins and stuff just like a train, so people can catch a quick nap if they wish.

In other words, try to make her laugh... make some observations and make fun of them.

 

[wheelin&dealin]

I would have got off at an early stop if the conversation was dying.

You should number close every girl that you talk to for more than 3 minutes.

 

[One on One]

Originally posted by Big Pappy
Experience is the best teacher here. Go practice some more. Talk to them about tired everybody looks on the subway and how they should have cabins and stuff just like a train, so people can catch a quick nap if they wish.

In other words, try to make her laugh... make some observations and make fun of them.

Good call. I was thinking back on the convo and analyzing my actions and there were some opportunities I missed. First of all, the best thing I asked was lightheartedly, "So tell me what's better, college or the working world?" That got a little smile out of her because that's like a thing people always wonder about and she started talking about how she wanted to graduate, but now she wishes she could go back. I never pushed it further. I should have asked her what she liked about college and what she doesn't like about work. ****, I want to know that for my own damn benefit, haha.

Also, the girl freaking works for the IRS. There's a million and one ways to bust her balls on that one. To top it off, I'd bet the ranch that she was single and she was looking for a guy like me to come and sweep her off her feet. No point in dwelling on it though. I'll chalk it up as experience.

There's a lesson here, though. Follow the 3-second rule. I didn't follow it. It didn't lower her impression of me, however my extra thinking time caused me to not act naturally and harmed my game. I'm sure if I just approached immediately I wouldn't have "forgotten" the tactics I just discussed. Paralysis by analysis.

 

[khanboy]

Relax dude, stop analyzing your sarge. Its best to learn through experience, you know, trial and error of YOUR way of doing things.

In the end, do you want to spend your time interacting with a girl trying to think of the latest tactic to use, or other things?

I'd assume it's the latter, and if so, don't worry about tactics like C&F or any of the other crap. Just keep practicing, over time you will naturally learn to keep a conversation flowing without any 'tactics' or 'techniques.'

In order to do this all naturally you have to practice doing it naturally, you follow?