"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Psychotic brother and I have a house on our name - What to do?

Chamber36

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My father bought it for us about 10 yrs ago, before the dad passed away.

Since then, the bro's been in and out of psych wards about 3 times.

He was stayin with the moms, then my mom decided to move to Amsterdam as well (my dad bought the place here), to another house. She said that I needed to take my bro for 2 months time or so, so she could move and organize a bedroom for him (the appartment she moved to had only 1 bedroom and 1 living room. But it has a big garden into which she was planning on expaning the living room in order to get anothe bedroom).

So now, I know my mother, and I know she (like every other typical woman) will just say whatever suits her at a given moment in order for her to get her way.

Fast forward to now, I am stuck here with a schizofrenic brother, hearing 8 voices at a time, won't stop sighing and complaining about the past, in my house. I am nothing but a mere student. Trying and aspiring to be at least get my bachelors in civil engineering, and then hopefully get a Master's in Architecture afterwards. The stress he's causing me now - I just want to go out and drink, lol, so that I don't have to deal with my house, which is turning into a mess. He won't clean ANYTHING AT ALL. I can understand why these somalians
decided to just chain this guy into a shack.

So I keep calling my mom, telling her that I don't want to deal with this crap. I am a man of principle, more than most of you sosuave guys. I believe in honor and responsibility. But I am living with a person to which those terms honour and responsibility have no meaning. When I say them, they don't register in his mind. He has less of a sense of responsibility than the average 20 yr girl.

So I told my mom, as long as she does all the cleaning on his behalf, so that I can live the way that I want to, I dont mind. Otherwise, I'm going to flip my **** and eventually lock him out of the door and call her to come and pick him up.

Now come on Sosuave. Let me hear your responses.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I wouldn't live with him. He needs more help than you can give him. Is there some type of group home for mental patients he can live in? Is he taking his meds? It doesn't sound like it.
 

speed dawg

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I'd probably try to sell the house, take your halves and move on with your life.
 

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In all honesty, though he may be psychotic he's somehow more financially responsible as the only thing he does in life is smoke weed.

I'd be buying rolexes, cars and a prostitute here and there if it was me.

But I guess that's a good idea. Sell the house and get it over with, always an option.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Can you conact his doctor, the state or the county and ask for help?
Maybe talk to your counselor at school and ask if they know of any resources to help your brother?
 
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