"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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scsniper said:
Firstly in answer to grewd,wherever you popped up from.Thankyou for your interesting opinion.

If I cared what you thought I could help you but I dont. You seem like a well read intelligent fellow,so why do you not understand this.
I know longer need validation from others.I dont care what you think of me,I know your struggling with this,but Its just not gonna work .I didnt learn anything out of books,about not swallowing peoples ****,I learnt that from LIFE my friend.cant help you any further im afraid.But thanks for saying hello.

Now Double Greatest if it makes you feel better,and helps you sleep at night to truly believe(and care for that matter)that you are greater than me(someone youve never met before)my friend you can have that.we can just agree to disagree cant we.so give yourself a break,your getting all agitated about not a lot.lol see you later

****in nora,who are we gonna roll out next?shakespear,
Sorry to disappoint but this is my last one for the evening chaps.Its more interesting watching paint dry.
I wasn't talking to you. Also find it slightly offensive that you think you know what I understand and not, as if you can look into my mind. Also read your own reply as if someone else said it to you, does it seem like you care afterall and that it's the comment of a butthurt person? Could you point to what gave you the impression that I needed or was asking for help? That is something I don't understand that I would like to understand.

You don't care what I think, yet you're responding to it. So does that mean you cared enough to reply to something that wasn't for you, but didn't care enough to not be a d!ck?

Next time you're replying to me it better be the product of thinking and not brain farts, if not I'm just gonna point out how you embarrass yourself. And trust me when I say that I know better than to assume most people to be stupid, we'll see how little you care of what we think of you. Looking at the replies you've gotten so far is a good start.

Now, to the person I actually responded to.
Le killeur said:
Grewd, my entire life is based off experience, off trial and error. Trust me I've failed A LOT and I've f*cked up my social life many many times. But guess what, from experience i've learnt (who knew), psychology is a hobby as i said, rather a means by which to describe and make sense of such experience
Sounds like pretty much anyones life experience, I still don't understand how you're a psychopath?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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At the end of the day grewd,I do understand many of the points you make.
I get it.

But im sure you understand,I dont have to accept,false premises,and other peoples assumptions.That happen to be inncorrect.I too dont like to be told whats on my mind.

So when im told my life experience is out of books,I reject it cause its patently false.Or the other things that are incorrect.

That doesnt mean I reject your valid comments,
and believe it or not I am aware where I go wrong

So I dont need you to embarass me.I know what I do
I have a blind spot a big one,it comes with the territory.But on reflection,I see it.

As Dase In said from his book,and its something I relate too."I fight blind and my shield is my most important weapon,to lose it in battle is horror."

it is an appropriate analogy.Thats how I have to live. well I can still address you with no shield,because I have the integrity to do that.

If you understand people as you said you do,you should be able to recognise that.its not as easy as it seems.

Narc/Psychopath,whatever,labels dont define me,my actions when im in a tight spot do.
So I apologise to anyone I offended,with no caveats.grewd,viking warrior,anyone else.

There is no dishonour in that,not where im from.We live and learn,and learn I do.
Thats all I have to say.so goodluck to you all.
 

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Wow, didn't expect that one. This is something I easily understand. I was ready to piss you off until your mind exploded, seems like it just did. Apology accepted :)
 
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