Psychology behind crazy ex-girlfriend

[GeoMan]

Hi guys, i posted a new thread back in November (http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=222089). To summarize I dated a girl who left the father of her son for me, noticed alot of unusual behavior in her, went through hell, and got dumped so she can go and smash a bunch of new guys and now that the dust has settled I want hear from you guys what do you think is wrong with my ex-girlfriend? Will she ever have a stable relationship?

At the moment it was a very painful dramatic ordeal but looking back makes good food for my interest in psychology.

Circumstances of her life:
- Oldest sister of 6. No brothers.
- Father abandoned mother while she was still in the womb.
- Step father (whom she claims to see as her real father) hung himself when she was 6. She saw it happened.
- Mother has bunch of kids with different men whom all seem to have disappear/leave/die.
- No discipline from mother. She does what she wants.
- Poor welfare family.
- History of abusive relationships.
- Has had a miscarriage before(claimed to have lost it after being extremely deppresed from being cheated on by boyfriend)
- Bunch of ugly tattoos.


Unusual Behaviors or bizarre things she would do:
- Left the father of her son and was extremely cruel to him.
- Was extremely needy when we got together.
- No girl friends just guy friends.
- Very Jeolous.
- Extremely Promiscuous (smashed ten guys before me and like 5 right after) at age 20
- Cheated on me because I had homework to do
- Cried and begged for me back and literally gave me the power to order her to do anything.
- No hobbies, goals, ambitions.
- Seemed super in love(wanted to move in, get married, have kids, etc; all in a matter of a couple months) with me and out of no where went crazy and left me to **** atleast 3-5 guys. One of them the guy she cheated on me with.
- Compulsive liar.
- Seems to be easy manipulated by males(admittedly by me as well) that tell her all the cliche nice things she wants to hear.
- Sexually aggresive.
- Was at my house 24/7

Is there a specific disorder we can label these type of woman suffer from? Keep in mind she is barely 20...

 

[Scars]

Is this really stemmed from an interest in "psychology" or did she burn you so good that you have to rationalize to yourself that the problem is her, and maybe not so much you?

 

[asa_don]

Hi guys, i posted a new thread back in November

november wtf? this chick should be forgotten about, no reason to write another thread about her, bang some new chicks and forget about a crazy ex, writing about her again in july her limits youself to grow from the bad experience.

 

[GeoMan]

Is this really stemmed from an interest in "psychology" or did she burn you so good that you have to rationalize to yourself that the problem is her, and maybe not so much you?

I guess i am not fully over it but rationally speaking i know the problem is not me as she has done this to many guys in the past...

 

[GeoMan]

november wtf? this chick should be forgotten about, no reason to write another thread about her, bang some new chicks and forget about a crazy ex, writing about her again in july her limits youself to grow from the bad experience.

November is when the relationship started. it ended only a couple weeks ago.

 

[Infern0]

She could be bpd

you are definitely codependent

 

[asa_don]

November is when the relationship started. it ended only a couple weeks ago.

be more clear about that when you write the threads.

sounds like she has some emotional disorder or problems going on, no need to think about it anymore, let some other dude go through the same sh!t.

 

[GeoMan]

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[GeoMan]

She could be bpd

you are definitely codependent

what makes you believe im codependent?

 

[Tictac]

Every possible sign that this woman was a grade A nut job was well known to you before you broke up her marriage and family and in short order dumped you to go on a d*ck hunt.

And you want to know what was wrong with HER?

LOL

 

[GS750]

are you ****ing kidding me?


Girl is clearly cluster b disordered, no she will never be normal. The only thing you did wrong was missing the red flags(tattoos were enough for instant next tbh) and then taking her back when she cheated.

Truth. Actually I'd go so far as to say anyone who takes back a cheater is codependent

 

[GeoMan]

Truth. Actually I'd go so far as to say anyone who takes back a cheater is codependent

Could be it. I was just very infatuated with her and couldnt leave her. I think its mostly due to my inexperience at the moment. Now I know once a girl cheats its over no fixing that.

Since it seems I am codependent how can i become independent?

 

[Dutchy17872]

Without knowing about any of her red flags, and just based on her actions, seems like classic female hypergamy (looking for the bigger better deal) and the branch swinging that accompanies it. You were the first branch in a long line unfortunately.

How to shake any co-dependency? Aside from therapy, certainly can't hurt to read the DJ Bible and the full body of Anti-Dump Machine. Just search this site for links.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

The problem actually is you. This coming from someone who has dated a few bat shi@t crazy girls in my past.

You see the reason you are the problem is you knew (in your gut) that this girl wasn't normal. But the fact that you lack experience and she was likely hot & a sexual slvt made you ignore your better judgement.

Not always, but 99% of the time, any girl who cheats on a guy to be with you, will cheat on you to jump to the next one.

Don't worry about a label, if you want to put one on her CRAZY works well.






PIMP

 

[GeoMan]

The problem actually is you. This coming from someone who has dated a few bat shi@t crazy girls in my past.

You see the reason you are the problem is you knew (in your gut) that this girl wasn't normal. But the fact that you lack experience and she was likely hot & a sexual slvt made you ignore your better judgement.

Yea I came to that conclusion. My lack of experience screwed me over but hey at least now acquired a lot of valuable experience points. I even remember when we started talking telling her that there was something different about her compared to other girls lol. Do girl like this ever simmer down and have healthy stable relationships?