Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Psychological Impotence

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This is an important issue for me, and probably other members of this forum too.

As some of you know, if you read my last thread, I have a hot date tonight, and so far she seems pretty hot on me. However, in the past, Ive usually only had sex in relationships, and never had problems getting full boners, and would have sex a lot with no problems. Only a few times I had problems keeping a full boner which was when I had a lot to drink, but from what I have read that is normal.

Now, since I have been trying to bang chicks without relationship intentions, I have had problems. Actually, the last one, we had met only once and then banged later that week. I could not keep a hard on during sex. It was hugely embarrassing. She was willing to talk about it and try again, but I failed the second time too. After this I could not talk to her anymore since my manhood was destroyed.

I am almost positive that it is not physical since I am able to get full boners when I jerk off. From what I read online, it could be because of stress, anxiety, depression, medication, and other things. I am not depressed, and not taking medication. I always have a little stress just because I have a busy work life, but so does everybody right?. It might be the anxiety thing. maybe I feel anxious about something when I dont know the chick that well. But I am not sure what exactly I would be anxious about. Plus I cant tell if it is anxiety since when I am ready to fvck, I just feel really horny, and cant pin point other emotions.

Basically, I want to know if other people ever had this problem. If so, did you find out the cause? What you did to overcome it?

Serious responses only please.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Been there done that. :)

Totally psychological. It's all in your head. You literally stress yourself soft thinking about it.

What to do?

1. Stop thinking about it. The moment one of those anxiety thoughts enters your head you have to erase it.

2. Stop jerking off. Get a good healthy back up going. :)

3. Do not bother analyzing it with her. Tell her that for whatever reason you are just not feeling it right now. It will make her try harder if she thinks she's not turning you on enough :)

4. Remember that women love sex. Forget about the relationships and the "love making". She wants you to fcuk her silly!! She is dying for it! Get more playful and kinky. Spank her. Pull her hair. Toss her around the bed a little. Go from oral to sex and back and forth. Sometimes her mouth will get you hard and vice versa.

5. If it gets really bad consider this: Whenever you jerk off your brain goes into a "zone" where you are turning yourself on by thoughts alone. If you find yourself getting soft during the act shut your brain off and get into that zone. Completely forget about her pleasure. Get yourself off. Go for it.

It's all in your head. Don't put any pressure on yourself, have fun.

Good luck.
 
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Dear mex,
Englishman is quite right,Viagra or Cialis will give a hard on to a corpse.
 
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I've been having the same problems too bud, went to the doc because I started to get really worried. He basically informed me that what I was experiencing is known as "Performance Anxiety". He gave me a prescription for Viagra and said after that I should be good to go.

I'll be getting it from the pharmacy tomorrow and also be seeing the girl that very night.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Well, we went out on Saturday and then came back to my place. I was fingering her for a while, then she started to give me a bj. I was good for the first few minutes, then I went soft. I told her it was because of the couple drinks I had, and that I was tired (it was pretty late). Anyway, I finished her off then we went to sleep.

However, when I woke up I used my morning wood and banged her and I was fine. WHEW...Finally!

Anyway, just wanted to update about that.
 
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As a man ages, I have found that fatigue and drinks can much more readily take the wind out of the sails, even for one that is fit and healthy. Keep an eye on it.
 
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I get what you have. Basically, I need a woman who stimulated me psychologically. She has to be interesting or else I can't fvck her. If she's dumb as a lump of clay, my d1ck will tell her to fvck off
 
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Slickster said:
Been there done that. :)

Totally psychological. It's all in your head. You literally stress yourself soft thinking about it.

What to do?

1. Stop thinking about it. The moment one of those anxiety thoughts enters your head you have to erase it.

2. Stop jerking off. Get a good healthy back up going. :)

3. Do not bother analyzing it with her. Tell her that for whatever reason you are just not feeling it right now. It will make her try harder if she thinks she's not turning you on enough :)

4. Remember that women love sex. Forget about the relationships and the "love making". She wants you to fcuk her silly!! She is dying for it! Get more playful and kinky. Spank her. Pull her hair. Toss her around the bed a little. Go from oral to sex and back and forth. Sometimes her mouth will get you hard and vice versa.

5. If it gets really bad consider this: Whenever you jerk off your brain goes into a "zone" where you are turning yourself on by thoughts alone. If you find yourself getting soft during the act shut your brain off and get into that zone. Completely forget about her pleasure. Get yourself off. Go for it.

It's all in your head. Don't put any pressure on yourself, have fun.

Good luck.
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^^^^^^ THIS ^^^^^^

Spot on, only thing is, I guess Slickster, like me, has had a few cases of whiskey d1ck himself? Actually I call it stage fright. But either way, do what he says and you'll get over it.

Another thing I like to do is sit back and think about what you're doing. You're all freaked out about the stage fright, so just relax and realize, "hey, I'm about to get some pvssy." Eat her out if that's what you want to do. Internalize your inner porn star, do some freaky sh1t. I mean, I used to sit around all day beating off wishing to one day get some real pvssy when I was in a slump. Think about how you felt back then, and DO what you only THOUGHT about.
 
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Great feedback guys, I appreciate the honesty.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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