Proximity

[bat soup]

I thought this warranted its own thread, because proximity is the number 1 indicator of interest from a woman and guys are often oblivious to it. It can indicate both interest or disinterest - how close a girl places herself to you tells you a lot.

I'll give a few examples to illustrate the point. If you invite a girl over to your place and she sits far away from you, in another chair or sofa, that tells you that she doesn't want to be close to you and is probably not interested. Of course, she could just be shy, but even shy girls tend to place themselves close to you if they like you. In any case, you can test this out by moving close yourself and seeing if she moves away.

Another example is the girl that just wants to chat online or by text. She's avoiding being physically close to you and kokblocking you with her phone.

If you're in a bar or a crowded place, try to notice the girls that come and stand or dance close you. Girls do things like this - they won't approach and open you, but if they like you they will stand nearby and hope that you'll notice them.

And lastly, I'll show you a video where you can see what it looks like when a girl has absolutely zero interest. Notice how far away the girl is in this video and how she's leaning back in her chair as far as she can, whilst also maintaining the table as a barrier.

 

[Willie Naylor]

Todd V, and all PUAs, are insecure dorks.

Good post.

 

[bat soup]

Todd V, and all PUAs, are insecure dorks.

Good post.

It's pretty hilarious just how bad he is. And he's got a huge following. On the other hand, he did approach and give it a try. This goes to show that if you can just do that, you're already way ahead of most guys no matter how much ridiculous garbage you spew.

 

[Willie Naylor]

It's pretty hilarious just how bad he is. And he's got a huge following. On the other hand, he did approach and give it a try. This goes to show that if you can just do that, you're already way ahead of most guys no matter how much ridiculous garbage you spew.

A girl knows in 3 seconds whether she wants to fvck you, marry you, or kill you.

Looks reign supreme.

But back to the thread, an interested girl will always find a way to be physically close to you. Totally agree.

 

[bat soup]

Here are a few more examples I took from girls discussing how they show interest in a guy. Note how much proximity pops up (along with eye contact, which is also important but I think it tends to be so subtle and covert that it's hard to notice). Smiling is another one, but that's easy to confuse with general friendliness:

-Smiling, occasional blushing, physical contact (brushing the arm, sitting close etc.), and seeming to be interested in the person are pretty much standard signs of interest.
-just eye contact really, I never approach.
-Generally pay them a lot of attention, go out of my way to sit/stand near them and talk to them, particularly if we're in a group. I smile a lot
- I think I make more of a conscious effort to make eye-contact with guys I fancy while I talk to them

 

[Willie Naylor]

Pretty standard stuff.

I don't sense a lot of guys here know what they're doing with women. Lot of b!tching about women going on outside of threads like this.

 

[bat soup]

Pretty standard stuff.

I don't sense a lot of guys here know what they're doing with women. Lot of b!tching about women going on outside of threads like this.

That's true. There's a lot of nonsense threads. People get into arguments about all kinds of crazy theories about female psychology and so on, which I don't think is helpful. I think it's good sometimes to get back to the basics because a lot of guys don't know. If I had known this basic stuff when I was a teenager I could have avoided a ton of missed opportunities.

 

[SW15]

an interested girl will always find a way to be physically close to you. Totally agree.

Also, watch how she reacts whenever you try to escalate.

 

[Willie Naylor]

Proximity is just one. Another one is a smile.
Yet another is her guiding your cok into her puzzy.
There is NO one end all answer here guys.
The best thing you can do is open your mouth when she is in "proximity"

This is all pretty basic stuff. No advanced game stuff on this website, I see.

 

[bat soup]

Another thing I'll add is that women are passive. This can be seen just with the example I gave of some women discussing how they show interest in a guy. Most of them said "I never approach guys" and at the most they just look towards a guy, smile or stand close to them.

Women's game is a bit like what guys do when they have zero confidence and zero experience. They just stand around close to a girl, hoping to catch her eye but not approaching. Obviously that doesn't work when two people do that, even if they do like each other. This is why the guy has to approach.

 

[Zimbabwe]

That's you always get them to sit next to you during the date, sitting across the table is for friends. It's a simple compliance test as well.

 

[Willie Naylor]

That's you always get them to sit next to you during the date, sitting across the table is for friends. It's a simple compliance test as well.

I've read about this hole in the bottom of the popcorn bucket thing that some guys do at the movies.