"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Proving (Daytime) Cold Approaches Work

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When I first started an approach journal, my point was to get over my fears of approaching. I even managed to get a bunch of phone numbers, but realized that getting the number, is not the point; process, not outcome. Short story, I did set up a few dates back then, but backed out of them due to fear…because up until a couple months ago, I hadn’t made out with or sexed a girl. So, I was somewhat nervous about going on a date, and didn’t.

Since I've started making out with a couple girls and screwing them, etc, I am a lot more comfortable with women in general. And I would like to give daytime cold approaches a second shot.

Reflecting on my recent experiences with club sluts, as well as discussing with another board member, I realized that bars/clubs are not great places to meet quality women. Also, I would like to find a decent girl or **** buddy as a steady sexual partner, and get ass on a regular basis, not once a week or once every two/three weeks.

Another reason I feel a bit more comfortable trying to start approaches again is because I’ll most probably be transferring to another school next semester, so even if my reputation does get flawed, it won’t really matter, because I won’t be here in the long-run to deal with it.

Lately, I’d read a bunch of threads questioning the effectiveness of cold approaches. I never really replied to many of those, because I couldn’t exactly back it up with evidence. I never kissed or laid a girl off of a cold approach…and none of the ones in my last journal panned to anything.

Therefore, my primary reason for doing another “journal” is to once and for all prove to myself that I can lay a girl off of a cold approach, or to prove to myself that they are pointless. Deep down, I am hoping I can prove they are not pointless…it’s basically an unsettled question that I need to settle for myself, and hopefully it will also a good read for others as well.

* Note: there seems to be differing opinions of what exactly a cold approach is. In my opinion, a cold approach is basically approaching a girl you don’t know because you want to **** her. Making eye contact and smiling before you approach does not refute the fact that it was a cold approach. If you approach without sexual intentions, it was not a cold approach…and if you approach, then lose interest and do not attempt to close, it is still considered an approach.

The rest of my posts will not be nearly as long as this one. I will update this thread as often as I approach...which should be often because regardless of how fearless I am now, like anyone else, I get rusty after not approaching for a while; and when I’m rusty I’ll botch approaches completely.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I'll be interested in reading your journal, h20. I don't think I was the board member you were referring to, but it's good to see you are moving away from the bar/club sluts. You are operating in one of the most difficult markets (DC metro) so good luck to you and, if successful, you've proven it can be done anywhere!

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Defenetly looking forward to this, I've only been able if I catch them looking or smiling at me. Otherwise I wouldn't know how to catch their attention.
 

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I'm basically in the same boat man. All the girls that I've fooled around with have been girls that I've had some sort of rapport with. But you know, I have MUCH better luck talking to girls and getting them interested during the day, than I do at night. I think you might find the same thing eventually.
 
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