Prove, right out of her mouth.

[AceyR6]

Been Djing this HB for about two month now. Using all the $hit thats taught to us here. My goal here is to get a LTR outta all this, not just sex.
I asked her to be exclusive a week ago and she told me she wanted to wait to get to know me first. I assumed this was another classic rejection line, but since that, I'v gone out with her twice, got close to having sex, and she even made it a point to mention that she really did wanna get to know me. I have a little IM chat that illustrates how I'v been Djing her. Slight problem though, her ex who she was deeply inlove with has came back into the picture. She talks of him often but when asked if she would ever get back with him, she quickly said never. Do I have something to worry about?

Me: you can see right through him huh?
Me: would you say you can see right thru me?
Her: u confuse me sometimes...
Her: but hey whatever
Me: how so?
Her: im used to guys calling me everyday..wanting to chill with me everyday..and when u go 2 3 days with no call..and say oh im busy..i have $hit to do..i understand but idk its just weird to me..i guess cuz im just not used to that..i had a guy that was up my ass 24/7 ..its a change
Me: a good change?
Her: eh..in a way def yes...but usually wut i do is after i dont get a call for 3 days..i say fuk it..and move on..but i know if i dont get a call from u..its not that u dont wanna call me...its just how u are..and well i cant change that
Her: its all good in the hood...
Me: I'm really glad you understand that. God knows not alot women do.

 

[Kodiac]

Well, first of all i wouldn't ask to be in an exclusive relationship. I made this mistake in the past as well. Leave it for the woman to ask.

I'd stop with the chat. Save that for the dates. At least keep them short, like the phone - 10 minutes is plenty.

when asked if she would ever get back with him, she quickly said never

Ive done this previously also. IMO it shows insecurity and puts power back in her hands. Don't do it. Don't let the EX worry you, you are the DJ, not him!

Congrats on being a challenge and keeping her Interested. Re-read through some of the bible (just for a refresher) and keep playing it cool. Let her chase you, you are the prize.

Good Luck, go get some

 

[TesuqueRed]

I think you need to back off from this one--give her some distance. Her talking about her ex is not good. Kodiac already pointed out the issue with asking her for exclusivity first.

 

[Reto]

Yeah, I agree. Never ask to be exclusive. It just happens...

But, you are doing IT right.

Being distant, (not calling every day or seeing her) is very powerful. You basically are giving her a little attention. She wants more. If you gave her too much, she wouldn't want any more...

 

[drZaius09]

Originally posted by AceyR6
My goal here is to get a LTR outta all this, not just sex.

I'm sorry.

I asked her to be exclusive a week ago and she told me she wanted to wait to get to know me first.

Sorry about that too.

I assumed this was another classic rejection line...

No, that was a classic "you f*cked up" line.

Slight problem though, her ex who she was deeply inlove with has came back into the picture. She talks of him often but when asked if she would ever get back with him, she quickly said never. Do I have something to worry about?

I'm sure you have NOTHING to worry about. I mean, she said she'd "never" get back with him. Women don't lie, Acey.