TheSmokingGun
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I will jump to the point, I need some advice...
There is a girl from my work that I have liked for a couple of years. We would always flirt heavily. However, I was in a LTR and so was she. Both of our LTR ended within a couple of months of each others and she asked me out. I told her I was busy and then countered, etc. I played the game the first month - negs, mysterious, busy, etc. and things were hot and heavy between us. She would try to stay over, invite me out, cancel her plans for me, etc. However this past month, I feel like I am moving into the friend zone for some reason.
Some examples of why I feel like I am becoming a friend:
- At first, we had sex every couple of days. Now, we haven't had sex in a month.
-She used to try to stay the night, now before we get back to my place, she will say that shes tired and wants to go home.
-She used to text me all the time, now its rare if she does.
Im still playing the game but it feels like regardless of what I do, the interest is fading. Dont get me wrong, she still will touch me, flirt with me, etc. But if feels as though the interest is fading.
I know she had went out with other guys before me, after her LTR ended, but I'm thinking that I was the rebound. And I know what happens with rebounds, I should just hold on and enjoy the ride while it lasts.
I also think I am the rebound because I cant see what I am doing wrong? I like to think that I know the game pretty well and how to act around women...maybe not!
My question is, how do I tell exactly where we stand? I want to know specifically where her interest level is. I'm of course not going to ask her! I want to know if I should write her off or pursue her to see if there is anything left.
Should I do a no contact for around 5 days and see what happens? Should I ask her out and see what happens? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
There is a girl from my work that I have liked for a couple of years. We would always flirt heavily. However, I was in a LTR and so was she. Both of our LTR ended within a couple of months of each others and she asked me out. I told her I was busy and then countered, etc. I played the game the first month - negs, mysterious, busy, etc. and things were hot and heavy between us. She would try to stay over, invite me out, cancel her plans for me, etc. However this past month, I feel like I am moving into the friend zone for some reason.
Some examples of why I feel like I am becoming a friend:
- At first, we had sex every couple of days. Now, we haven't had sex in a month.
-She used to try to stay the night, now before we get back to my place, she will say that shes tired and wants to go home.
-She used to text me all the time, now its rare if she does.
Im still playing the game but it feels like regardless of what I do, the interest is fading. Dont get me wrong, she still will touch me, flirt with me, etc. But if feels as though the interest is fading.
I know she had went out with other guys before me, after her LTR ended, but I'm thinking that I was the rebound. And I know what happens with rebounds, I should just hold on and enjoy the ride while it lasts.
I also think I am the rebound because I cant see what I am doing wrong? I like to think that I know the game pretty well and how to act around women...maybe not!
My question is, how do I tell exactly where we stand? I want to know specifically where her interest level is. I'm of course not going to ask her! I want to know if I should write her off or pursue her to see if there is anything left.
Should I do a no contact for around 5 days and see what happens? Should I ask her out and see what happens? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.