Self Limiting Beliefs continued
My wings have gone over this issue several times. When I pull, they think/say/assume it's because I'm Asian. I used to think I could only do well in certain venues, or in certain neighborhoods, or with girls of specific races/ethnicities, or with girls in specific age groups. The more I improved (and trust me, I need a ton of improvement still), the more I discovered that all of these were self limiting beliefs. Every time, I discovered that the problem was simply a weakness in my game. For example, I used to wear glasses at night. A definite no no. Contacts or lasik is a must. I also wear form fitting button shirts when I go out now. I work out. I have more plans for improvement in the works. Be ruthless in acknowledging and eliminating your weaknesses instead of assuming that you can only do well with certain groups or in certain venues or in certain parts of the country.
Take a look at the curriculum you follow and examine it for weaknesses also: the DJBC, which I love and am terribly familiar with, is terrific, but it's for absolute beginners only. Compare DJBC with Mystery's "newbie mission": with Mystery Method, you don't go out to say "hi" a bunch of times--you go out four consecutive nights a week! You open mixed sets, pairs, whatever. You encounter AMOG's, ****blocks, you name it. This is a much more difficult curriculum and absolutely essential for anyone who wants to stand a chance at night game. I love Gunwitch's post on nightgame and DJBC which I've already mentioned, but you'll be standing around twiddling your thumbs at night unless you can approach sets instead of the non existent lone wolf at night.
Continually improve yourself, and look for the best or multiple curricula: never assume it can't be done, or that you are at a fundamental disadvantage. Anyway, we're getting a little bit off topic lol. Mods, feel free to start a new thread on self limiting beliefs or whatever this new vein of discussion happens to be focusing on.
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PS: Westcoaster, I respect your views on the northwest, especially given your tenure in that neck of the woods, but I was out last weekend and I did see a number of, or rather a few, black guys out (remember, this is the Pac Northwest, so there aren't many minorities). I'm not sure if they were out just to drink or to chill with buds or what, but I'm assuming they were out doing what every red blooded single male goes out to do on weekend nights (whether they follow through or not): hunt for girls. From what I could tell, they were not doing especially well. Granted, that was only one weekend at a few venues but still, I didn't notice any discernible advantage, or an especially high level of interest in Black men on the part of the honies.
Let's put it this way: assuming that Black guys do especially well (and this is a big "if" in my opinion), is it because they are "exotic" in the Pac Northwest, or is it simply because they are more assertive than average first, and more comfortable with their sexuality on average second? If it's the former, then the rest of us are screwed (not in a good way). If it's the latter, then what we're really talking about is a skill set (the quality of your approaches, from opening to closing) and a mind set (an attitude of confidence and fearlessness). I tend to believe it's the latter. I'm the last person in the world to believe or state that race doesn't matter, but regardless of race, we are all capable of improving our appearance and of approaching and vibing with women in a way which throws "attraction switches" within women.
