"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Prom

AlexLefty

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so.

anyways, my prom date, allison, like top 3 hottest girls in the school, so ****ing hard to get with

she dated my friend for like a week and then broke up with him

i think he's the only guy she's kissed, besides stephen when they got drunk, remember stephen because he also doesn't get girls, idk if he even talks to girls..i think he's kissed like 2 girls life time, he's just a bros bro

anyways, so i've been working on alli the past few weeks, and i'm starting to feel that spark of attraction, and when we get to prom, i know i can have it..she's responding, initiating convos, laughing, and dancing...oh the dancing was hawt

But

there's also Caitlin

Caitlin was my friend john pauls date, and at the day activitiy i was talking to her a lot and we were flirting and i could tell she was getting attracted quick, it got so bad that alli even asked me, 'are you trying to hook up with caitlin?? you guys are guna hook up huh?'" Basically i had my pick of caitlin or allison, i chose to stop going for caitlin then and get alli..because alli would have bailed if i went for caitlin, so because of allison, i stop chasing caitlin, but i could have had either...


like at the dance, when i was gridning with alli, caitlin kept looking over at me and then going hard on jp when she saw i was looking....it was kind of weird

so anyways; after prom we go party, and like 5 minutes after getting to the house while im washing my face alli comes in the room and is like ' o god i just took like 3 shots..' i was like...wtf..i wana play pong

so i go to the kitchen, alli is my partner, and we're going to play pong, so i turn my back for a minute to set up the cups, next thing i hear is everyone going oooohhhhhh!! i look behind me and alli and stephen are just making out in the corner in the kitchen....i'm like wtf......

the drunk ****s.....so i'm like **** this....i still could have chased alli and isolated but after her making out with stephen i'm like...naww, i don't want sloppy seconds you know? so i go to find caitlin, and i'm going to reinitiate....and right as i'm walking down stairs her and john paul walk into the room and close the door...fuuckkkk


SO to recap: i decided on alli, so i stopped chasing caitlin, but then stepehn made out with alli so i aborted but by then i had already lost all of the time i could have had with caitlin and by that time john paul had already closed....he just walked into the room....It ****ing sucks dude, like I had my pick of any of them...I could have closed at anytime but i decided to play pong and i was a little scared...like so i learned that i REALLY need to learn to pull the trigger fast/right away


soooo

i lost them both

and i was like ' **** this' dude i was ready to fight stephen

because he double ****ed me

but i couldn't get mad at him for doing it even though she was my prom date because we weren't a thing and i didn't have any title on her...like i was about to.....but yeah..basically i learned i need to pull the trigger asap


he had already drunk made out with alli like 3 months ago too......


So then listen to this: this is really the only reason that i didn't fight stephen i think

i was like ****kk.. 'if only tera was here i'd have someone to hook up with'

tera is a jr. that i met last weekend at a party, i talked to her for like 2 minutes but i could tell it was on.....she also said i approached her in english like 4 months ago but i don't remember it...

anyways, then my friend connor calls and asks me for the address and says he's with a bunch of people including tera..so i'm like..ya


anyways, then my friend connor calls and asks me for the address and says he's with a bunch of people including tera..so i'm like..ya

anyways, they get there, then i hook up with tera on my friend Leas bed who was the owner of the house and jizzed on her bed and she was pissed..though she didn't know about the jizz

So i got some, but not what I ****ing wanted

I'm so pissed, because stephen ****ed me over double time, I haven't talked to Alli since, and I saw stephen the other day but was really cold to him...i'm ****ing pissed

Oh and then like, later I was walking down the stairs as alli was walking up and she was like "Oh...you and tera huh?!" in this snooty voice.....like wtf

I just walked past her

Oh and Caitlin has a bf too, and like now i lost my chance with her because it could have happend that night, in the moment you know, but now i've been trying to text her and she's like...i have a bf n **** so i lost that forever prolly



no doubt dude

i ****ing hate stephen now

and like alli

****

haven't seen either of them ha

she sent me a mssg liek: "oh thanks for the dance i had so much fucn, of all my dates my mom ssaid she liked you the best"

i didn't respond

^My prom. Copy and pasted mostly from a convo with BPH.

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The song describes my feelings of women. Listen to the lyrics
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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10/10 for persistance man, two strikes and you hit it on the final one. Dont get too pissed off caitlin and allison dont exactly sound like people you want to hang out with anyway... you can always move to them again at another party but allison in particular sounds like a hoe
 

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That sucks.

So here's where you are now. Caitlin is off the table. Tera is a sure thing, but unimportant. Allison is still on the table, but being a *****. Stephen doesnt matter, he's just another guy wandering through life trying to get some.

If Alli tries to talk to you again, it means she considers you as an option. But you do have a reason to be mad: She was your date, and didn't let you know what the deal was.

If you express that to her, I think that conversation could potentially end very well. Basically this is how I see the progression happening:
"I had no clue you were going to go for Stephen. You were my date and you started making out with him in front of everyone"
"I'm sorry I didn't think you would care"
"Yeah well I do"
"So you like me? Lets get it on?"

Basically by showing her you're jealous you can feed her drama instincts a little and she'll love it, which could lead to more. Or you can drop her because she doesn't deserve your attention, either way works.
 

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Thanks Nick, appreciate the support. Always try to look at the positives haha.

LearningSlowly said:
That sucks.

So here's where you are now. Caitlin is off the table. Tera is a sure thing, but unimportant. Allison is still on the table, but being a *****. Stephen doesnt matter, he's just another guy wandering through life trying to get some.

If Alli tries to talk to you again, it means she considers you as an option. But you do have a reason to be mad: She was your date, and didn't let you know what the deal was.

If you express that to her, I think that conversation could potentially end very well. Basically this is how I see the progression happening:
"I had no clue you were going to go for Stephen. You were my date and you started making out with him in front of everyone"
"I'm sorry I didn't think you would care"
"Yeah well I do"
"So you like me? Lets get it on?"

Basically by showing her you're jealous you can feed her drama instincts a little and she'll love it, which could lead to more. Or you can drop her because she doesn't deserve your attention, either way works.
Yeah like stephen and alli don't even know i'm mad at them, mostly because i have no reason to be publicly since alli and i are not a thing. Basically i didn't do that dialog you said because I saw her earlier today in like the commons at the college because all the IB kids were gathering to take tests. Anyways she saw me, then like 6 mins later she runs over to me, puts her hand on my shoulder and asks me about Senior Assasination (a non-school related game where you kill people etc. and the winner gets like $500) but I'm basically going cold on her..really idgaf...like i still wana fvck her, but i'm done trying basically, meh...i get over girls kind of quick ha.

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Over the past 4 years though, I've always kind of felt this thing between alli and i, like we know we should be together, and like we would be good and think one another is hot and want to hook up, but we're both too stuck up to do ****......idk, it's a weird feeling....anways..
 

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AlexLefty said:
Over the past 4 years though, I've always kind of felt this thing between alli and i, like we know we should be together, and like we would be good and think one another is hot and want to hook up, but we're both too stuck up to do ****......idk, it's a weird feeling....anways..
Then do something,move forward? =)
 

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Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Have a ONS and see what happens. She actually really seems slutty(no offence), and I think a fling is the most you'll get from her.
 

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Nah, this girl isnt important. Its gonna be some drama if he tries for something. If your only reaction is "Meh" then it isnt meant to be.
 

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LearningSlowly said:
Nah, this girl isnt important. Its gonna be some drama if he tries for something. If your only reaction is "Meh" then it isnt meant to be.
True, though I'd still try, unless she tells me to fvck off, or I'm not attracted.
 

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apocolipto said:
True, though I'd still try, unless she tells me to fvck off, or I'm not attracted.
There's also my reputation to consider. She's in my crew. So she's not one of those girls who idgaf what she thinks. Plus, I'll be seeing her for the next 4 years in college.
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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