“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

Read more...

Prom Tix: Pay for or don't?!

j8snx1

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 24, 2005
Messages
325
Reaction score
1
Age
38
Location
L.A., CA
Okay so I'm with this one girl (freshman) at the moment. I have been thinking about asking/taking her to the prom but one thing that kinda questions me the most is... should I pay, or HELP pay, for her prom tix if she says yes, or not?

I have this little principle that I will not spend much, or none at all, on a girl that I won't have any relationship with. That idea has kept me from doing AFC things like paying for the girl when we're just friends hanging out, etc. However, now that I am in a relationship with the freshman girl, I'm kinda stuck in the mud here; should I at least help pay for her prom ticket now that we're entering the relationship world...

...or should I just let her pay for her own stuff while I take her to the night of her life?

I know you guys may have answered these questions already/before, but it would really help me out a lot if you guys gave me some feedback so I don't have to ask something like this again in the future.
:confused:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

j8snx1

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 24, 2005
Messages
325
Reaction score
1
Age
38
Location
L.A., CA
anyone? :[
 

toddC

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 28, 2005
Messages
421
Reaction score
0
I've always been led to believe that if you go with someone OUT of your grade then YOU pay, however if your a senior and you take a senior then you 2 SPLIT the tickets and all that good stuff. So in your specfic situation I'd say you would have to pay for her.
 

08aisaac

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 22, 2005
Messages
740
Reaction score
1
Age
36
Hmm, well, since you're in highschool. She's a freshman. She's probably shallow, since she's a freshman. They seem to be shallow in my opinion. It's fine if you want to pay, as long as you got the cash. And the principle behind not paying is that you're not trying to buy her attention. But since you're a junior or senior, you could probably pay without it being that big a deal. Plus, she's probably infatuated with you anyway. She is a freshman anyway.
 

B-Lemond

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 9, 2005
Messages
1,007
Reaction score
10
Location
On The Road to Self-Improvement
Yes





No



What does it matter what other people think? Form an opinion of your own before you try to be molded into a person that you are not.


If you think in your case you should pay, then pay.

If you think that you shouldn't, then DONT!


It's not that BIG of a deal.


All of you guys that are starting new threads based on your specific situation, you aren't helping your DJ skills.

First off: The questions are just.....well, just look at them. I mean, c'mon.

Second: With the advice you are given, you are only getting the fish.

You aren't being taught how to fish.

What would you rather do:

1) Depend on someone to give you the fish?
2) Learn how to fish.

Actually learning how to fish is more benificial to YOU, than being given the fish!


Do you want to learn how to fish?
Follow me then:

http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
http://www.sosuave.com/halloffame/default.htm
http://www.pickupguide.com/

Make an identity for yourself and think on your own.

Why don't you tell us what YOU think you should do. Then we will discuss it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

madseason

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 19, 2006
Messages
12
Reaction score
0
But if she is from a different school, you should pay for both. Buying at the door would be a bit awkward in this situation.
 

shydude

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 27, 2005
Messages
569
Reaction score
2
Location
New York City
It depends what kind of peron she is!! Sometimes girls like to par for they own. Sometime they exept guys to pay for em, And some just share the price in half@@ What u should do is take her out to date and see what kind of person she is out of those 3! good luck
 

j8snx1

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 24, 2005
Messages
325
Reaction score
1
Age
38
Location
L.A., CA
I had taken her out on a date a few days back and she seems to be the split the price in half type of girl, but not entirely. I paid for the food, she paid for the coffee, and ironically they came out same price, and she also had the tendency to pay for her own stuff as well. I think my plan will be to just ask her to prom, and if she says yes and doesn't argue/mention anything about money probs then I'll just leave it be. If she starts hesitating and her reason is money issues, then I'll help her pay for it.

Otherwise, I'm good to go!
thanks guys
 
Joined
Nov 8, 2005
Messages
867
Reaction score
2
Location
***** palace
Yes pay... it's prom do you think the chick has the money to pay for everything. Their dresses cost more than 300 bucks, when I went to prom freshmen year I paid for the tickets, transportation and party. It's sometimes good to be a gentlemen and show some class. Make sure they don't get used to you paying for everything.
 

Damian

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 13, 2005
Messages
440
Reaction score
3
Location
San Diego, CA
--Men: Tickets, Transportation, Clothes (rent a tux for no more than 40 or so), Corsage (for the girl 5-50)

--Women: Dresses (50-500, i've seen), Photos (These run up pretty high), Boutonniere (for the guy 5-50), Accessories

--Dinner, you can decide whether you want to pay, or split the check, but make sure it's 1. previously discussed and agreed upon- or 2. You have enough money to cover both of you just in case.

That's pretty much the rundown for any particularly formal school dance like Prom, Homecoming, Winter Ball, etc.

-Damian
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

j8snx1

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 24, 2005
Messages
325
Reaction score
1
Age
38
Location
L.A., CA
haha thanks damian for the rundown. however:

a) i don't have a car! I'm gonna try asking around and see if my buddies have room for 2 more in a limo...otherwise im planning to get her to meet me there..(which sounds pretty lame, but that's what i had to do for homecoming)
b) where do you buy a corsage?
c) i remember in my homecoming there was food and drink already prepared at the hotel, so food i wont have to worry so much.
d) i completely forgot to get photos during HC; now i dunno whether you pay the money upfront or you bring the money/picture order on the night of the dance. anybody know?

any DJ's welcome to answer! thanks in advance
 

j8snx1

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 24, 2005
Messages
325
Reaction score
1
Age
38
Location
L.A., CA
anyone?
 

Soupar

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 4, 2006
Messages
169
Reaction score
0
j8snx1 said:
haha thanks damian for the rundown. however:

a) i don't have a car! I'm gonna try asking around and see if my buddies have room for 2 more in a limo...otherwise im planning to get her to meet me there..(which sounds pretty lame, but that's what i had to do for homecoming)
b) where do you buy a corsage?
c) i remember in my homecoming there was food and drink already prepared at the hotel, so food i wont have to worry so much.
d) i completely forgot to get photos during HC; now i dunno whether you pay the money upfront or you bring the money/picture order on the night of the dance. anybody know?

any DJ's welcome to answer! thanks in advance
You can buy a corsage at any floral store, even king soopers has them where they sell flowers. And I wouldnt depend upon the food at prom, its pretty traditional to take the girl out to dinner beforehand.
 
Top