Alright, this is it. Today i'm asking the girl to the prom. We hung out together earlier today and it went pretty well. Although i didn't get any kino going, i got some laughs. Tonight there's a party that she's going to be in. I'm thinking I will ask her if there ever is a slow dance part, whispering into her ear, that would be great, but i dont know if there's a slow dance part. So if not, i will ask her after the party, maybe when she is going towards her car, ill walk her there and ask or something. AHHH so many thoughts going through my head. what if she says noo?? mm...any advice on what im doing would be nice :nervous:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Prom Time
- Thread starter Oni
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
LaDanian Tomlinson
Don Juan
just chill
I have a few tips because I just did this a while ago, and I have learned from my mistakes so here it goes:
1) Make up your mind - the worst thing to do is hesitate. Once you commit to asking her, do it. I probably came off insecure because I just stood there and we were both obviously uncomfortable just looking around.
2) Casual - make it casual when you ask. Unless you want to pull a Laguna Beach thing, just keep it casual. I got so nervous because I had a plan to ask in a "creative" way, but it backfired because I got nervous...yeah...
3) Ask when you two are alone - My mates' gfs say girls wanna be asked alone because otherwise they feel trapped and will bull**** or say no, sometimes even when they mean yes. I went to ask, and one of her damn friends tagged along because she was being nosy and that added to my nervousness. It's also weird with some giggly girl standing there and I wanted to drop kick her ass across the room....spectators aren't cool man.
4) Ask in person - self explanatory.
5) Dealing with rejection - see it as how I saw my rejection: this girl missed out on a free fun night with me, so I'm going to light up another girl's night.
6) It's just prom - no biggie man. If it doesn't work out, hey it's a big ass dance and all, but you won't look back in 10 years and feel bad about this girl. You will laugh about the rejection with your mates.
Cheers man, and good luck.
1) Make up your mind - the worst thing to do is hesitate. Once you commit to asking her, do it. I probably came off insecure because I just stood there and we were both obviously uncomfortable just looking around.
2) Casual - make it casual when you ask. Unless you want to pull a Laguna Beach thing, just keep it casual. I got so nervous because I had a plan to ask in a "creative" way, but it backfired because I got nervous...yeah...
3) Ask when you two are alone - My mates' gfs say girls wanna be asked alone because otherwise they feel trapped and will bull**** or say no, sometimes even when they mean yes. I went to ask, and one of her damn friends tagged along because she was being nosy and that added to my nervousness. It's also weird with some giggly girl standing there and I wanted to drop kick her ass across the room....spectators aren't cool man.
4) Ask in person - self explanatory.
5) Dealing with rejection - see it as how I saw my rejection: this girl missed out on a free fun night with me, so I'm going to light up another girl's night.
6) It's just prom - no biggie man. If it doesn't work out, hey it's a big ass dance and all, but you won't look back in 10 years and feel bad about this girl. You will laugh about the rejection with your mates.
Cheers man, and good luck.
six-foot AZN '05
Don Juan
Yeah, Oni listen to Potbelly. It works. I did the same stuff to get me a prom date.
Thanks guys, but here's what happened tonight lol
she showed up, and she brought a friend who just didnt want to do anything at all! she just sat by herself so the girl i was gonna ask felt bad and went home early with her, before the slow dancing part =/ and i cant go up to her when she is leaving because her friend was with her. Oh well, i'll have to come up with another opportuniy. Any suggestions though?
she showed up, and she brought a friend who just didnt want to do anything at all! she just sat by herself so the girl i was gonna ask felt bad and went home early with her, before the slow dancing part =/ and i cant go up to her when she is leaving because her friend was with her. Oh well, i'll have to come up with another opportuniy. Any suggestions though?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
DA****, you guys have no idea how mad i am right now. What happened tonight was NOT suppose to be like that! Her reclusive friend is P*****G me OFF SO MUCH! I can't sleep at all right now so i feel like ranting it out rather than banging my head on the wall. my one perfect opportunity RUINED. Sigh...
I actually had a chance..a 5 second slow dance with her before she noticed that her friend was sitting by herself so she told me she wants to go hang with her lonely friend...i know my chance with this girl is high right now but i have to do it soon before it takes too long! When she was leaving she just said a quick goodbye and left... UGH
*banging head on wall
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I actually had a chance..a 5 second slow dance with her before she noticed that her friend was sitting by herself so she told me she wants to go hang with her lonely friend...i know my chance with this girl is high right now but i have to do it soon before it takes too long! When she was leaving she just said a quick goodbye and left... UGH
*banging head on wall
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