"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Prom Screw Up - (Yes I know this is the 100th Prom Post)

English_Bloke

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Ill be honest that Im getting bored of seeing all the posts about, 'should I ask her' or 'how should I ask her' - but I know everyone starts somewhere and now its my turn but not in a typical situation.

So I know this girl and we have gone out a few times and I assumed we were going to prom, turns out she asks a guy she doesnt even know that well. Me = Pissed, She = Happy to get a guy.

Question is: Usually I would next her, heres the twist: She wants to go out this weekend and used words like 'alone', 'just us' and 'romantic'. Do I drop her over prom and forget this weekend or act like it I dont care?

Sorry to bring up Prom but this situation just has a twist that I cant work out if its worthwhile.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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dannowillbookem

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you dont care. if theres sex this weekend, get it. ask someone else to prom. if you dont have anything secured by then, ask her again. but dont be overwhelming

she probably wants to bone you so stay calm, confident, and in a mood that reads something like "dont **** this up but if you do life goes on"
 

Damian

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Her decision was based on several factors. Considering how you have gone out a few times, it's safe to assume that if you didn't make any good attraction, you're simply stuck in the friend zone. Another factor: She's either really shy, or a real social butterfly. I doubt that a shy girl would just ask any ol' guy, so I'll assume she's the social butterfly.

If anything, don't get too worked up about it. If she is just playing with your head, don't let her get to you. If she isn't messing with you, then all the more reason to just let it go. Find somebody else to take to prom, and next time, just ASK instead of ASSUMING.

-Damian

"Assumption is the beginning of failure."
 

AC/DC

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She's kinda into you. When is prom?

Screw prom fool, you're gonna get a girlfriend. Just go with a friend, and DANCE WITH HER WHILE YOURE THERE. YOU MUST DO THIS!!!!!!!!

It is imperative that you HAVE FUN at prom. You can get her later.
 

LikRetsam

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I never knew prom was a sign of interest. Who cares who anyone officially goes with?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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kev me723

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you can't assume with women, you probably should have asked HER before she asked this guy. Either way, it doesn't mean she isn't still interested in you, you are just not the only one. Don't sweat it, just be more attractive than the other guy and you win. :)
 
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