"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Prom Date doesn't want to Have sex, Advice?

E_Sex

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Hey guys, well let me start by saying I decided to go to prom with this girl that I've known for a while, but haven't hooked up with because she's always had a boyfriend. She is single now, and I am near certain that given most chances I could hit it.

However, my friend has confided in me that she told him, while they were Prom dress shopping that she said, "I want to look sexy, although I hope E_Sex doesn't think we're going to have sex or anything." Now let me tell you, this initially didn't phase me, I was thinking, well actions speak louder than words and come prom night, I'll work my magic and it won't even be a big deal.

But I started having lurking thoughts, and thought maybe I check with my fellow DJs, like one thing I really want to know is what should I do if she brings it up to me? Should I just be like ofcourse we're going to have sex on prom night, or what? And Prom is exactly one month from now, so if there are any steps you guys think I should take I'd like to know.

Normally, I'm a pretty chill guy and am not outcome dependant, but I really feel like Prom is a time when I should get laid. So any advice is nice.
 

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I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

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irocknike23

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Hmmm not sure about how to get her in the mind set but i will add my insight


On my prom i didn't get to have sex because me and my date had 8 couples+a bunch of others in our room(somehow our room turned into the afterparty) it was cool but like i said no sex and me and her wanted it both so we just did it next day when we got home but it wasn't as cool since we weren't in a hotel room(lol)


lesson? make sure you got room arrangements thought of ahead of time
 

IamJosan

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If you're having fun and the mood is right, and I'm sure it will be since it's prom, you will fvck. Take her to the after party!
 

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your right in the fact actions speak louder than words. Just be chill be you and keep doing what your doing. Her saying things like that are bs, once u get her in the right mood she will do it
 

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I think you were spot on in the beginning! Now you must believe in yourself, and not allow some nagging doubts to ruin it for you! And if you don't believe in yourself, at least believe that a miracle will bring you good fortune :D

Never EVER spend time thinking about what she might have said, or might think... you're only defeating yourself.
 

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Chickfight

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Take the lead, sweep her off her feet, make yourself irresistable to her and most importantly do not give a damn about what she said.

Make sure you're physically escalating throughout the evening. Maybe even share some alcohol before with her before you go in. There will be a lot of friends around, so you have to be more interesting to her than them for her to want to stay with you, but don't TRY to follow her around, do your own thing as well, pull away and give her some space, chill with your friends a bit, but make sure you end up back with her and continue escalating with kino and flirting. By the time you're dancing you should be able to throw in a suprise peck, then ask her if she wants to get some air and make out and further escalate from there.

Make sure you plan out logistics and protection so there's actually an oppourtunity to have sex. You should never plan out every little detail on a date, such as what exactly you're gonna say and when/how you're going to touch her, Just let that happen, escalating is part of our the instincts we all naturally possess, but we just overthink too much and hinder it. It IS useful however to have a loose game plan or outline that sets the mood of the date, especially if you're not that experienced, but if things don't go exactly to plan, don't stress, let yourself improvise and remember, in the end it's just sex. Don't forget to have fun! The journey is often more satisfying than the goal.

Good luck
 
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