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Don Juan
This post originated as a comment in the discussion forum, and I was asked to re-post it in the Tips section.
The thread starter was asking how he should leave a lasting impression after his first day at a new store. He didn't specifically mention getting dates from his female co-workers, but as I suggested, these tips are generally about being Alpha at work. (Which is my sphere of interest anyway). the master DJ's will back me up when I say that girls come as a natural fringe benefit of being the Alpha Male.
There's nothing really new in these principles, but they're presented here from a specific point of view.
1 - Assuming your conversation skills are up to scratch (re-read the conversation threads in the bible) spend at least five minutes talking to everyone, including the managers. Try and talk about stuff outside the store / job. Find out one interesting fact about everyone. Bail elegantly if the conversation stalls or you'll look bad.
2 - Learn names and remember them. Use images to associate the name to the face. For example if his name is Robin Phillips think of a little red breasted bird with this blokes face waving a philips screwdriver animatedly. (I don't know how philips screwdrivers translate abroad, but over here they're the cross headed types). Basically the more vivid and memorable the picture the more likely you are to remember the name. This is a standard memory technique and worth practicing for all aspects of your life, although props to URL=http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=32916]Spanky[/URL] for describing it so well in his thread.
3 - Get comfortable in your environment as soon as possible. Have a good nosey about if you get chance, find all the little cupboards and back rooms and look out for useful items that might be neeed. Knowing where everything is, and more importantly where you are is a key part of projecting Alpha traits.
4 - Be ****y and funny, but don't diss the managers. Be a leader from the start, if you have a two man job to do like shifting a sofa or something, find someone at a lose end and TELL them "hey [name] come and give me a hand with this will ya?" then chat with them about some light topic, and thank them for their help. Nice guys ask, leaders lead. But don't tread on any managers toes.
5 - Find the quiet ones and build them up by talking to them and getting them to talk about themselves particularly when the group is together. Validate their opinions even if the rest of the group is rejecting them. If they are obviously completely wrong and you can't find anything valid in their opnion, try and correct their mistake by showing that where they went wrong was a mistake that anyone could have made.
6 - Find the confident ones and mirror them until you get up to the point where they start mirroring you. Then make sure you always have them following your lead.
7 - Use Kino, even on the blokes, even on the Managers, obviously I don't mean stroking arms suggestively (unless you're actively trying to DJ a girl at that point) but a pat on the back or a guiding hand on the shoulder, even a firm handshake are all key ingredients to the Kino technique.
8 - If there are groups already formed there will probably be two types. The ambitious "suck up" type, and the laid back "minimum effort" group. Groups that have formed in a work environment are often best left as they are, but you need to establish yourself as a member of all of them. You should feel just as at home hanging with the laid back group as with the work minded group as with the managers.
9 - Be careful not to find yourself in the "friends" zone though. At work there is often a "sub friends zone" I think of as the "colleague" zone - as in "Oh I could never have a thing with someone at work, it would be too wierd if we broke up."
You get into that zone by staying out of the friend zone but having too close a working relationship in the work zone. You'll also become undateable if a girl thinks you can't be discreet.
Now there were many replys in the original thread warning of the dangers of picking up girls at work, and the consequences of this if it ends acrimoniously. I think these were very valid points, but a DJ often lives for the day. Carpe Pyga and all that.
Now I'm not going to say that a true DJ never has an unhappy ending to a relationship, because no one can say how the other party will react, but I will say that if you do find yourself getting serious with a girl from work, accept that the costs of this may well be that you need a new job.
These techniques should get you well in with managers and thus help you progress if you decide to make a career with this company, but most importantly from a pick up point of view they will get you noticed by the ladies.
The thread starter was asking how he should leave a lasting impression after his first day at a new store. He didn't specifically mention getting dates from his female co-workers, but as I suggested, these tips are generally about being Alpha at work. (Which is my sphere of interest anyway). the master DJ's will back me up when I say that girls come as a natural fringe benefit of being the Alpha Male.
There's nothing really new in these principles, but they're presented here from a specific point of view.
1 - Assuming your conversation skills are up to scratch (re-read the conversation threads in the bible) spend at least five minutes talking to everyone, including the managers. Try and talk about stuff outside the store / job. Find out one interesting fact about everyone. Bail elegantly if the conversation stalls or you'll look bad.
2 - Learn names and remember them. Use images to associate the name to the face. For example if his name is Robin Phillips think of a little red breasted bird with this blokes face waving a philips screwdriver animatedly. (I don't know how philips screwdrivers translate abroad, but over here they're the cross headed types). Basically the more vivid and memorable the picture the more likely you are to remember the name. This is a standard memory technique and worth practicing for all aspects of your life, although props to URL=http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=32916]Spanky[/URL] for describing it so well in his thread.
3 - Get comfortable in your environment as soon as possible. Have a good nosey about if you get chance, find all the little cupboards and back rooms and look out for useful items that might be neeed. Knowing where everything is, and more importantly where you are is a key part of projecting Alpha traits.
4 - Be ****y and funny, but don't diss the managers. Be a leader from the start, if you have a two man job to do like shifting a sofa or something, find someone at a lose end and TELL them "hey [name] come and give me a hand with this will ya?" then chat with them about some light topic, and thank them for their help. Nice guys ask, leaders lead. But don't tread on any managers toes.
5 - Find the quiet ones and build them up by talking to them and getting them to talk about themselves particularly when the group is together. Validate their opinions even if the rest of the group is rejecting them. If they are obviously completely wrong and you can't find anything valid in their opnion, try and correct their mistake by showing that where they went wrong was a mistake that anyone could have made.
6 - Find the confident ones and mirror them until you get up to the point where they start mirroring you. Then make sure you always have them following your lead.
7 - Use Kino, even on the blokes, even on the Managers, obviously I don't mean stroking arms suggestively (unless you're actively trying to DJ a girl at that point) but a pat on the back or a guiding hand on the shoulder, even a firm handshake are all key ingredients to the Kino technique.
8 - If there are groups already formed there will probably be two types. The ambitious "suck up" type, and the laid back "minimum effort" group. Groups that have formed in a work environment are often best left as they are, but you need to establish yourself as a member of all of them. You should feel just as at home hanging with the laid back group as with the work minded group as with the managers.
9 - Be careful not to find yourself in the "friends" zone though. At work there is often a "sub friends zone" I think of as the "colleague" zone - as in "Oh I could never have a thing with someone at work, it would be too wierd if we broke up."
You get into that zone by staying out of the friend zone but having too close a working relationship in the work zone. You'll also become undateable if a girl thinks you can't be discreet.
Now there were many replys in the original thread warning of the dangers of picking up girls at work, and the consequences of this if it ends acrimoniously. I think these were very valid points, but a DJ often lives for the day. Carpe Pyga and all that.
Now I'm not going to say that a true DJ never has an unhappy ending to a relationship, because no one can say how the other party will react, but I will say that if you do find yourself getting serious with a girl from work, accept that the costs of this may well be that you need a new job.
These techniques should get you well in with managers and thus help you progress if you decide to make a career with this company, but most importantly from a pick up point of view they will get you noticed by the ladies.
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