"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Programing girls

MindOverMatter

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Note, this tip is only for guys who are really secure and don't have a problem with exchanging histories with a girl. If you think her history is too much to handle or your own history isn't all that great and you don't wanna live through a Chasing Amy-type experiance, save this for another time when you're ready for the worst.

Also, this is an a$$hole thing to do, so a lot of people will consider it unorthodox. If you do, please do me a favor and don't read the rest of this, or comment on it.

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The first rule is, never be the one to bring up past relationships, wait for her to do it.

Otherwise, exchanging histories with a girl is the best way to program her to behave the way you want her to. She will ask you about previous relationships, what they were like, why they didn't work out, etc. Girls are very competitive and curious, a great combination. She will want to find out as much about your ex so she can surpass her.

The important thing is to never badmouth your ex, give the girl some pretty watered down reason why things didn't work out. I like to say that we were fighting a lot over little things, and that it was getting to be too much for both of us. Then I'll say "don't get me wrong, she did a lot of sweet things too, I don't want you to think I'm the kind of guy who will badmouth exes, we just weren't compatible and it was best for both of us to move on with our lives".

That's your bait. Most of the time, the girl will fall for it, and inquire about the good things your ex did. This is where you get to have fun. I mean, the sky is the limit here. Cooking dinners, washing your car in a bikini, mowing your lawn in a bikini, buying you stuff, waking you up with a BJ in the morning, etc. Pick one of those, and mention how your other girls never did that for you, so you thought it was a nice gesture and you always remembered it.

The important thing here is to not make the girl feel bad (i.e. if you're gonna say your ex gave you a BJ first thing in the morning to wake you up, don't say it was the best BJ you ever had, just say it was a nice gesture, and that you appreciated it etc).

Another thing is, make sure the current girl can do the task you mention. If your current girl is poor and you mention how your ex always bought you sh!t, you wont accomplish sh!t besides make her feel bad that she can't do the same. Although this whole manipulation thing is a very a$shole thing to do, you don't have to be an a$$hole while doing it, be kind.

A small part of her will feel jealous about the fact you remember this, and will try to replace that memory by doing it as well, or doing something even better. The only downside is, she may mention something about her past ex, so make sure you have a thick skin, and that you don't fall for her game like she's falling for yours.

Peace!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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biker_gixxer

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Great post bro. I totally agree with this method. I've tried it a few times... :D
 

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Very interesting...

Evil too!



*rubbing hands together*
I like it.
 

Carlito_Brigante

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Amen brutha.. Amen. Preach it to the masses.
 

S0LID

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Manipulation is my middle name :D I get it from my mother. I normaly use it to turn people against eachother. IMO alot of seduction is about manipulation. It would be nice to see more tips on it on this forum.

nice tip :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Jay-X

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really cool, but i can already get what i want from my honey:) anyway, it'd suit stockholder's evil ways:)
 

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Excellent Tip :) .. I'm sure there are lots of other methods for programming girls like this.

One way is reward programming where you "reward" her when she does somit you like / want, then you don't give her the reward next time if she doesn't do it... So in her subconcious she'll relise it's better too give the thing u want cause she ends up with a reward.
 

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This ties into anothe post I just read. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16872
Your tip really frames it well. Using a past relationship like that is a good way to tell her what she needs to do without being demanding of her. You tell her what she should do, then you reward her when she does it.

This all works on a very basic animal level. People (and animals oftentimes) are eager to please and recieve rewards. When you do things for someone, you feel like you're needed. And everyone likes being rewarded.
 

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It seems like a nice tip, but you've got the correlation/causation thing mixed up.

Firstly, a girl who asks you about your past relationships very early on is already pretty much in the bag.

Second, girls who are this prone to influence and eager to please are of the insecure variety. By the same token, you'd just have to mention what you wanted and she'd do those things for you without needing mention of your exes.

Again, it comes down to the kind of girl you want to pursue. If you like dominance and control, find yourself a succeptible girl and hack away. Just a note: confident girls will barely bother asking you about your exes. And should you keep mentioning things about an ex, they'll just surmise you're still bent on them.

Pick your battles wisely.
 
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