progession to a LTR

[Chromeo]

Just wondering what your guys experience is with your progressions into a LTR. did you meet her and just hit it off and start seeing each other regularly or was she a plate you kept at bay for a period of time?

Feel like every chick I actually like, I can never keep around. While the ones im not interested in either get mad clingy or just always stick around. I definitely am trying to hang out with the girl im interested in the most more than the others. Might be mild oneitis tryin to see her too much too soon. Just wanna compare my standard progression to the rest of you guys

 

[handle]

Keep it casual. If you're both enjoying it then if you want you can cut off your links with other girls and make it all official. But above all else keep it extremely loose for longer than you think it has to be. For me 6 months is a good time to make it more of a straight-up relationship. I prefer letting the line slowly blur rather that trying to perform some "transition" operation.

EDIT: And to answer your question more directly I guess I'd fall in the "spinning plates for a while" camp. But say I didn't have any plates. I'd still keep it just as 'detached' as if I had some.

 

[Falcon25]

I'm curious with this as well. So what if she dates other dudes? What if she stops calling all the time? What if she hangs out once every two weeks instead of every other day or two? Just keep it casual?

 

[Iceberg]

I'm curious with this as well. ?

You're supposed to let women try to tie you into a relationship, not the other way around.

So what if she dates other dudes?

Great. Now you don't have to feel guilty about dating other girls.

What if she stops calling all the time?

Calling all the time is terrible. My last girlfriend was a real cool chick. She might have called me once per week to chat. Any other calls were 15 seconds, "You coming over?" things.

What if she hangs out once every two weeks instead of every other day or two? Just keep it casual?

You seem to think that her interest levels will drop if you don't make her an "official" LTR. I've never seen that happen. Ever. I've never seen a girl say, "I like Iceberg. He's funny. Charming. Handsome. But he never made me his LTR." If they're interested, they'll ask you "What are we?" If they don't ask you that, then they're not interested...so just enjoy the relationship-free sex. But don't assume that asking them to be your GF will raise their interest levels. A girl HAS TO chase the relationship. It can't work any other way.

 

[pipe007]

you had your last girl call you once a week to see "whats up"?

nice lol, If I'm in a relationship, and she calls me only once a week, i would take that as Low interest and move on...

but that's me

 

[thecurtainfalls]

The truth is, in my experience, the answer to this is going to vary wildly from woman to woman. Just be aware of your unique situation, pay attention to her actions and what they potentially mean, never be needy, and you should be fine.

 

[Iceberg]

you had your last girl call you once a week to see "whats up"?

nice lol, If I'm in a relationship, and she calls me only once a week, i would take that as Low interest and move on...

but that's me

Nah. You took it wrong. I mean she called me once a week for mindless chit-chat. Any other calls were just to arrange a meetup. We saw each other 3-4 times a week, I'd say. Perfect, in my opinion. Those girls who call their BFs daily...what could they possibly have to talk about every single day? Give me a few days of alone time and I might have a cool story to tell. Daily though? Nah.

Guess I'm not a big fan of long phone conversations. It's like, if a GF wants to talk, let's do it over a beer or dinner. I feel like phone conversations intrude on my ability to do other things.