Productive You vs. Bitter You

[Drum&Bass]

There seems to be a lot of focus about why women are bad, worthless, heartless, etc, etc..but this forum should be talking about what makes a guy mature (besides recognizing and complaining about bad traits in women)...

everyone has to go through the phases and stages..you meet a girl, you get hurt by a girl, you get bitter, you learn the game, you learn how to manipulate women, you learn how to get sex easier...thats all fine and great, but who gives a sh!t..

I've made a few posts about women and some of the things they do, but I've gotten past that, I've gotten past all the foul stuff that happens and learned from it..how many times can you guys read the same stuff about women over and over again ???

some guys are older than me, been on this site longer than i have and still talk about the same sh!t.

i'm starting to get my career finalized, I'm in rediculously good shape, able to make friends with any and everyone i come into contact with man or woman and keep those friends for life, i'm able to be flexible, open minded and hear the full story (several perspectives) about alot of things...and the more complete i become, the less connected and puzzled i feel about alot of the people who post here.

I will say one thing, I think who you are reflects the type of people you meet, the guys who always meet the wrong types of girls are probably clueless, NOT very cool, insecure or just really un-lucky (highly unlikely) offline..and the guys that have no problem meeting great women, be it for friendship or relationships, are probably guys that are decent, confident, fairly intelligent, genuinely good people to be around and an asset to have as a friend.

..and just like everyone else I get flaked on, but now I don't see it as a big deal (i actually haven't for awhile) i've never had a bad date and all of my encounters with women have led to very good things...All of the women i made an effort to meet have been great and we've enjoyed out time together. because of all the short term relationships, i've been able to meet one great girl after another, its been a good experience and now that i'm not concerned about commitment, my enjoyment has only increased. If your a mature man you should be at the point where you've got other things going on in your life that are much more interesting than worrying about women.
we all know theres good and bad and its harder to find the good so lets move on, maybe share some of the good traits you look for in a woman or share a good experience you've had so we all can learn from it.

So this post is just telling you that...if you truly are a complete man or on the road to making yourself complete there should be no reason to have very many concerns or questions about women..it would be nice if there were more topics on general things of substance that pertain more to a mans lifestyle and interests.

 

[synergy1]

it takes time, and experience to develop confidence to get where you have. Some acquire this confidence faster than others, others slower. Remember everyone is at least trying to get to the same point (success with women), but not all of us will get there at the same time.

Patience, above all, with persistence will pay off for anyone.

 

[Vulpine]

If your a mature man you should be at the point where you've got other things going on in your life that are much more interesting than worrying about women.
we all know theres good and bad and its harder to find the good so lets move on, maybe share some of the good traits you look for in a woman or share a good experience you've had so we all can learn from it.

Women are great for taking pictures.
V: "Hey, come over. I need you to take a picture of my first coyote."
FB: "You caught a coyote in a trap?"
V: "Jeeya!"
FB: "Awww!"
V: "Awww nothing, he was suicidal and didn't have the technology to end his own life. I'm like an angel of mercy to these depressed animals. Why else would they go stepping all up in my traps?"
FB: "LOL. I have to jump in the shower, then I'll be right over."

 

[Charm]

Women are great for taking pictures.
V: "Hey, come over. I need you to take a picture of my first coyote."
FB: "You caught a coyote in a trap?"
V: "Jeeya!"
FB: "Awww!"
V: "Awww nothing, he was suicidal and didn't have the technology to end his own life. I'm like an angel of mercy to these depressed animals. Why else would they go stepping all up in my traps?"
FB: "LOL. I have to jump in the shower, then I'll be right over."

I like how you re-framed the situation to create the reality that you are the angel of mercy helping the coyotes. Well done.

 

[Charm]

it takes time, and experience to develop confidence to get where you have. Some acquire this confidence faster than others, others slower. Remember everyone is at least trying to get to the same point (success with women), but not all of us will get there at the same time.

Patience, above all, with persistence will pay off for anyone.

This is great advice actually and very simple! Persistance means that you keep changing and growing, even when its painful, stressful, frustrating and makes no logical sense! Experience is the holy water of Don Juanism and anyone who is a master at it has gone through plenty of hardship to get to where they are and they still continue to do so. We keep learning and advancing only when we take action!