"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Prodigy's Journey

Prodigy86

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Hey guys, I'm 24 and more than ready to get my life headed in the direction that I want it to be in. I'm aiming to make a lot of overall self-improvements while focusing in this thread on some of the main points that I want to change and improve.

I've been reading the material on this site and have made a lot of changes in the past year, but have hit some bumps in the road recently that have motivated me to really take things to another level.

Main points of focus:

Dating
I have a pretty big social circle and I'm pretty outgoing, but my main problems are that I have some serious approach anxiety and even when I do hit it off really well with a girl, I am horrible at closing. Because of this, I have never had a girlfriend and I'm a virgin. So as you can tell I have nowhere to go but up and my goals are to make consistent approaches, go on dates, and get a girlfriend.

Job
I was recently laid off from my job, so I am going to be doing a lot of job hunting.

School
I finished a year of college then dropped out a few years ago, but I want to start going again next quarter. It isn't for a couple months away, but for now I want to get the job as a PT and save up the money to back to school.

Working Out
I enjoy working out but have been slacking a bit lately but I'm ready to get into the best shape of my life. I plan on having a healthy diet, working out 4-5 days a week, and to limit the drinking to no more than once a week.

So as you can see, I've got a long way to go but I feel really good about what's to come. I'm going to be starting tomorrow and updating this with what will hopefully be some good field reports! Thanks for reading.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Gray The Prince

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Go for it my man. I'm going to follow this journey and give you some feedback. I also started my own journal last week. It's good to see guys taking action around here.
 

TIC

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Prodigy86 said:
I have a pretty big social circle and I'm pretty outgoing, but my main problems are that I have some serious approach anxiety and even when I do hit it off really well with a girl, I am horrible at closing. Because of this, I have never had a girlfriend and I'm a virgin.
The big social circle is excellent. You will be fine. Most relationships come out of sc's anyway. You'll be getting blowed in no time. Are you going to stay on campus in college?
 
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