"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Problems with my girl , dont know what to do..

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by Desdinova
Do you play games when you do maintenance on your car?
I seriously think you two are talking about the same thing...you just have a difference on how to define it.
 

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Originally posted by frivolousz21
its actually not a constant game...Have u ever had a women really in love with you?????


unless u fall into the deep end of a hell hole..she wont leave you or cheat once this love is there
Exactly, that's the case here. She is deeply inloved with me, and I know that for sure =/

It really sounds like the two of you are trying to outdo the other one. Your relationship will be (if not already) a competition to see who can hurt the other one more. It's going to end up nasty in the end. You shouldn't be telling her a damn thing about your ex's or even about girls who flirt with you. I don't know who started this 5hit, but somebody continued it. Both of you are to blame for this.
It sounds like that when we are in a "fight" which is the 20% of our conversation. Other 80% is pure fun.

It's like there's a cake. A very nicely looking cake, you taste it , and most of it is delicious , while some part of it is not tasteful. That's my girl, the un-tasteful part is what I dont like about her. Throwing the cake away is apparently not a good option ,because most of the part is delicious.

If i don't like something about her, i tell her. It's not like its something that she cant stop, when she says something she does it, as I have seen it in the past. But im suspecting her and worrying that she shows to other random guys that she is available- Is that a valid reason to argue? Or am i insecure? I just want my girl to show that she is taken. Am I being too possesive?



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About the Chess gamepaly you guys talking about, what move would you do if she acts like this for example

- "I went with Anne downtown, some guys shouted and whistle at us :p , how rude ;)"

- "My ex called me last night...you know..we talked abit and made sure to tell him i want someone else. I know he wants me."

-" We saw some guys last night, baby i can tell you they where v. impressive at looks wow. I told Anne that it was her chance to talk with them, hehe :p"


Oh well, I guess she either tries to get me jealous or what. Be sure to take notice after all the comments above she adds " Baby, you aren't jealous now are you? You know I wont do anything to damage our relationship"
 

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But im suspecting her and worrying that she shows to other random guys that she is available- Is that a valid reason to argue?
No. It's her job to let other guys know that she's taken. It's your job to let other women know that you're taken.

Or am i insecure?
That seems to be the problem. You have to learn to develope some trust for your woman. If she fvcks up your trust in her, kick her out the door.

She'll make her choice on her own. You can influence it through different ways, but she'll be the one who makes the choice of which man she wants to be with. Your insecurity will drive her away. Being a fantastic guy will pull her closer.

This goes the same with you. She'll do stuff that will drive you away from her, but if she's a damn good woman, you'll be drawn closer to her. You're the one who'll make the choice of which woman you want to be with.

But remember, It takes two people to start a relationship, but it only takes one to end it.
 

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I see...



No. It's her job to let other guys know that she's taken. It's your job to let other women know that you're taken

You mean, yes, its a valid reason to argue.



About the insecurity thing, problem is that she is initiating it
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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