"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Problems starting talking to woman!!!!!!!! help

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I have problems starting of conversations, so basically this is how i start...

Hi my name is_____, i just wanted to come over, and introduce myself to you. and then ask her for her name...

After finding out what her name is...i just dont know what to say afterwards, straight from asking her name...

I want to ask questons which has an impact from the beginning

can you help me out.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dannyrt34

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Ask where she's from, how old she is, how she is, if she's single. Then make comments on her answers. If she's at all interested she should also be trying to keep the conversation flowing.

Or depending where you are. I sometimes make comments on things going on around us. If I'm at a bar I'll ask what she's drinking. Or at a club, comment on the funny old people dancing.
 

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Dannyrt34 said:
Ask where she's from, how old she is, how she is, if she's single. Then make comments on her answers. If she's at all interested she should also be trying to keep the conversation flowing.
This is boring. How are you? What's your name? Where you from? How old are you? Are you single? What's your favorite color? Do you come here often? Blah,blah blah. These are facts,information,and data. Cold and unfeeling.
I've said this a THOUSAND times,so I guess this makes a thousand and one:Women are emotional. They..want..to..feel. Your conversation needs to stir up some type of emotion in her. You'd be better off making her angry than coming at her with this type of dialogue. If she doesn't "feel" anything while you're talking to her,then it won't matter what you say. Don't ask questions,make statements. Emotionally based/charged statements.

Another thing is this:Energy and emotions are contagious. Therefore,whatever it is you want from her during the conversation,first,you must already have it in you. In other words,if you want her to be warm and friendly,then first YOU must be warm and friendly. If you want her to open up about herself,then first,YOU must open up about yourself. This also means that whatever reactions you are currently getting from women right now are a reflection of the way you are CURRENTLY approaching them. When you change yourself,the responses you're getting will also change.
 

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This is what I do:

I assume we are long lost friends who met after a long long time. We have so much to catch up on. So the list goes endless. I try reaching the wildest unlinked conversation pieces (but interesting though). Just let your imagination flow deep and wide. Have NO FEAR. Forget about "What ifs":

What if she likes me?

What if she is engaged?

What if I am being boring?

None of that. Just enjoy yourself to the max. And she will feel that energy. ;)
 

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I remember when i was at this stage so i understand how ur feeling Everyone has something unique about them maybe she has kool hair style, tattoo a book, a funky walk. Look at her think about something that defines her like any of the above and just mention it. "Wow that is some massive book u must b smart whats 2 x 0...haha this is a trick one u won't get it." then just carry on, "so what brings u in this area, i know where a kool libary is if u want lol".

So just do that and u will b fine, things to keep convos going

opinion: do i look better with the glasses or without the glasses

situational: wow why r we the only people in the train, did someone say its going to crash and i didn't hear it, its ok i can hide behind u

What shes wearing or holding: like book example

What shes doing: dam that exercise must b hard, could u always do the splits
or wow u got a really relaxed look about u its kinda kool...wait u better not b high lol

How she talks: awwww u r so quiet its cute, how old r u, stop me when i get close? 12, 13,14, 15

Future guessing: ur eyes look greedy let me guess ur an accountant, dam u look very discplined let me guess teacher

average convo (don't really like this but for starting off simple) hey how r u, what u doing work or college?

Dude going to b honest first few times not going to lie ur going to screw up a lot, but guess what thats the biggest point ur going to improve. Experience dude thats what u need and the only way u do that is trying out what u got then changing it every approach u do to something better. GOOD LUCK
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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