"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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problems in the club! kind of a paradox

Enjin 7

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say youre in a club with a girl.

and

some dude walks by and slaps her ass...

well

what do you do?

if you kick his ass

you are thrown out.

I suppose this isnt a big deal

because it only is $15

but

I want to continue having fun.

The lack of retribution for this act

is disconcerting to say the least.

so what would you so suave badasses do?


thanks!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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hmmmm tough one.

Maybe point at the guy and say "hey, that guy was cute!"

Shows that you don't really care + generally whenyou point guys out to girls and say "he's cute" they generally think "well, not really".

I'm sure there is a better response than this. Let's see what others think.
 

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I will have to say honestly I didn't understand anything of what you just said. I am not fresh on this lingo.

basically what I got out of that was, comliment the girl to a certain extent, but leave her lacking full compliment, making her want to please you more. shrug it off like it is no big deal since you are the uber badass out of all the guys in the club? laugh at the other guy for being a womanless sucker?
 

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If it's a date you brought, you better do something about it. Confront the guy, tell him in a non-confrontational way that he needs to apologize because she is with YOU. If he doesn't... then you're gonna get yourself kicked out of a club for dealing with the situation. Otherwise you look like a chump in front of your girl, and no amount of patterns, triangular gazing, or NLP is going to overcome that.
 

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i'd say "what the hell is that? that's not a slap on the ass! *THIS* is a slap on the ass" and then slap her ass harder than he did.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I agree more with Vampire on this one. You don't want to show weakness, she'll only cheat on you later.

What works is this (i've seen it work nicely). Get upset in front of her about the situation and tell her you're going to confront him.

She will stop you because she doesn't want to see any fighting, but will also know you were prepared to do something. It saves you face and she can feel protected around you in the future.
 

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^^^ Yo man, don't be a hero for something that happens almost every time a girl goes to a club. Shiat happens, people are drunk. I've seen fights start like that, I mean is it really worth a woman's honor... at a CLUB filled with other bunch of drunk people and massively strong bouncers?

If you get the chance, call the dude out but keep cool. Even try to be c+f.

I once slapped a girl on her ass, and she got some guy to get pissy on me. It was almost funny watching him making threats at me, I told him Wow dude, I'm sorry if I accidentaly touched your friend. And the guy just keep shifting his body left and right like he's bluffing. So if you do what the above guy advises, you'll be the bigger fool. I speak from real experience.

btw, after that experience, I no longer slap girls on the ass (LOL) I'm not gonna have any bones broken in a CLUB.
 

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We'll there you go Warlord - the guy standing up to you taught you a lesson not to go around slapping girls you don't know on the ass. You shouldn't be doing that anyway.

I didn't say fight the guy, just said to show some concern in that you wouldn't stand for it.

You speak from experience as the guy who slapped the chicka on the ass, not the guy who was with her. The guy who was with her got his point across, though it was a bit abrasive.
 

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tough one...

The thing with confronting him is that you are showing signs of jealousy, which is not a very attractive trait to some women.

Still think a joke might be the best route.

Or maybe you can ask the girl "shall I smash his face into the wall for you?" on a serious note. She will, of course, say no, so no confrontation will ensue but at the same time you've showed that you are willing to kick the guy's ass if she wanted you to.
 

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Wait a sec.....

Does she know the guy....maybe he gave her a good luch tap for chattin with ya?

If she knows him show that it bothers you but you don't have to get all worked up over it.....


If she doesn't ....get worked up. But if you just met her I wouldn't leave her to confront the dude.....she might ditch ya.....Just show her that you don't find it appropriate and move on.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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a final thought... Why should we start fights between each other because of women? That guy could be you, just another guy playing games in a club trying to land a girl.

We're on the same team if you ask me.
 

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Originally posted by El MonoLoco
Wait a sec.....

Does she know the guy....maybe he gave her a good luch tap for chattin with ya?

If she knows him show that it bothers you but you don't have to get all worked up over it.....


If she doesn't ....get worked up. But if you just met her I wouldn't leave her to confront the dude.....she might ditch ya.....Just show her that you don't find it appropriate and move on.
Nice, very nice

I've been the giver of gl taps too many times to not think how stupid I am for missing this. I used to see other guys do it all the time, the girl wouldn't even give him a second look.

Do you ever pull the innocent and naive kid?

"why did he spank you?"
 

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Originally posted by MightyMate
You go to him and say You an to speak outisde for few minutes. You kick his ass and get back.
You focus too much on being big man.

Girl is fun. If every guy in club say hi, you beat all up outside?

Maybe end of night there be no guys left?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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There is almost no reason to get angry here....unless the girl is your GF or she took offense to it....


Think of it like this.....


Your talking to some chick and some other girl comes up and slaps your ass....What do you think she is gonna do?


Or what if your homie comes over and gives you a Hi 5???

I don't see the difference here....do you?
 

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Originally posted by reyalp
i'd say "what the hell is that? that's not a slap on the ass! *THIS* is a slap on the ass" and then slap her ass harder than he did.
haha I like this one. It fits my personality!!! :):):)

If it makes any difference, I am nationally ranked in both muay thai and brazilian jiu jitsu, a fact which most girls I know are aware of... so given this, showing power of restraint is showing lots of power indeed?

turning an awkward situation in to a comedic one is more of my style :)
 

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Originally posted by reyalp
i'd say "what the hell is that? that's not a slap on the ass! *THIS* is a slap on the ass" and then slap her ass harder than he did.

Best answer in my opinion and what i would do.
 

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i hope you guys will be out there in the clubs trying to score the vday rebounds.

if their made up and dress skanky this week then they're looking for a lay for sure. and they may make it easy to :D
 

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haha logen

Wednesday night wingers... Definitely gotta pull a party out of a hat this valentines day.

Hmmm what psychosexual terms should I focus on this week? I like the new line of thought from bb, "women are freaks", gonna see if I can up my game.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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