Problems Carrying Conversation

[Desdinova]

Hey all, as many of you know I'm doing the bootcamp. The biggest problem I'm having is going from the approach to carrying a conversation with a woman. I can approach, make some very small talk, I can kiss close, I can get her into the sack, but I can't keep a conversation going to save my ass.

There's two reasons that are likely linked to this problem I'm having:

1) I was very shy as a child. Hell, I didn't even touch the telephone until I was 12 years old. I would rarely say two words to anybody.

2) I really don't give a 5hit about other people unless I've already built good rapport with them over time.

Does anyone have any suggestions on how I could go about improving this aspect of my personality?

 

[synergy1]

per another thread, what I do is try and continue conversation using nouns. whatever sentence she said, determine which nouns were used and follow up with a statement or question about that noun. below is a cursory example.

So you from around the area?
Yeah, from X city. ( X city is the noun to ask next)
Oh wow, I hear X city is pretty sick place to live. what do you think of the nightlife?
its good, I check out X bar on weekends when I am with friends (Now you have X bar, and friends to play around with)
I bet X bar is a great time, probably more guys than girls.

etc..

That is a horrible made up dialogue but the idea remains. being knowledgeable helps a lot since you can chime in, but asking the right questions to carry on conversation is probably the easiest way i can think of to keep it going. The easiest for me is if they happened to have traveled and I can bring up my similar experiences.

like you, I grew up shy and conversation can be difficult at times. I still have trouble with conversation from time to time, but try and use nouning to help out with that. Have been out of the game for a while and my skills are likely shiat, so any updates and i'll try and pass it on to you.

good luck bro.

 

[drewsg]

Get out more. The more you experience, the more you'll have to talk about, and more you'll have to talk back if you come across a chick with the same interests.