"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Problem with ****y and funny

ROOKIE OF THE YEAR

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I heard a lot sources here said ****y and funny is a great way to make women attracted to you. But when I tried to make moves on some women yesterday, I did really bad.
My biggest issue is that I really bad at starting conversation with women that I don't know. Now I've read thedj bible quite a few times but when I go out and start taking action its a whole different story.
I felt I wasted a lot of time on sossuave and david D's materials. Don't get me wrong, I think the stuff sounds cool, but I'm not a very conversationalist, espeacially with hot babes.
When I was in high school I get bullied tons of times, and ever sine I barely talk ever again. It was the safest way.
But when I came to this site, I really wanted to make changes of myself.
So my question is how do I start conversations and more open? DJ bible is great, but I'm not and funny type of guy. I feel embarrass when I get rejected, just like high school all over again. I really want to choose this path to be a good do juan. How do I be ****y and funny?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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seanchai

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It takes a lot of time and a lot of trial and error, buddy. One day you'll hit everything right and you'll see how powerful it is... just remember that.
 

Martini Joe

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Forget ****y and funny for now, cat. Without good convo skills you'll just end up acting aloof and rude. Work on your chit chat first.

Take a look around for Playa Supreme's posts. I think he went over it pretty good.

Where is that cat, anyway?
 

seanchai

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Originally posted by Martini Joe
Forget ****y and funny for now, cat. Without good convo skills you'll just end up acting aloof and rude. Work on your chit chat first.

Take a look around for Playa Supreme's posts. I think he went over it pretty good.

Where is that cat, anyway?
Banned. He was probably the best on here, in my opinion. Funny as sh¡t too.
 

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Originally posted by seanchai
Banned. He was probably the best on here, in my opinion. Funny as sh¡t too.
So one of the few cool cats that didn't give me any sh-t got the boot. Let me guess, too much arguing, right? Too many chumps lined up to go toe to toe? Wouldn't surprize me.

Heads up Rookie Of The Year. Pay attention now. Good luck.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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