Dr.Gonzo
Don Juan
Hi there,
Well you see I have a problem with my female housemate. She and I have been friends for a year and half, I met her during Freshers week. She didn't live with me last year but this year we have lived together. Now, she has a boyfriend which has always held me back but a few months ago they broke up for a few weeks. Something was bugging me for a week or two before that and it became clear in my eyes what had happened and what needed to be done. I told her of my feelings for her on a walk which ended up in 'couldn't happen' and 'I do love you'. Confusing to say the least. A week or two after my 'declaration' she was back together with her b/f and he came up to visit. ONe thing to mention here, she used to talk about the problems with him to me even after I told her my feelings but recently even when I know there's an issue between them, she doesn't speak a word.
At first it bugged me out, especially considering her flirty behaviour towards me. She said she didn't want me and her proximity drove me crazy. Too make matters worse she gives off all the standard signs that normally would propel me to act and she also stares me down when I mingle with other women. The icing on the cake is the fact that a few weeks after I told her my feelings she quickly changed the convo when I talked about other girls but now she almost openly encourages me chatting up other girls even though she stares me down the whole time. Take for example today when a prospective housemate came over, this girl is quite hot and I have found I get along well with her. When she arrived my female housemate instantly began sitting closer next to me deliberately touching me which is something that never occurs without the company of other women. I find myself confused and annoyed at the problem to which I feel responsible for. I don't know whether it's me over-analyzing everything or her deliberately confusing me so as to keep me on the sidelines. Any help would be greatly appreciated and please do not sugar coat it, I'm a man, I can take it.
Well you see I have a problem with my female housemate. She and I have been friends for a year and half, I met her during Freshers week. She didn't live with me last year but this year we have lived together. Now, she has a boyfriend which has always held me back but a few months ago they broke up for a few weeks. Something was bugging me for a week or two before that and it became clear in my eyes what had happened and what needed to be done. I told her of my feelings for her on a walk which ended up in 'couldn't happen' and 'I do love you'. Confusing to say the least. A week or two after my 'declaration' she was back together with her b/f and he came up to visit. ONe thing to mention here, she used to talk about the problems with him to me even after I told her my feelings but recently even when I know there's an issue between them, she doesn't speak a word.
At first it bugged me out, especially considering her flirty behaviour towards me. She said she didn't want me and her proximity drove me crazy. Too make matters worse she gives off all the standard signs that normally would propel me to act and she also stares me down when I mingle with other women. The icing on the cake is the fact that a few weeks after I told her my feelings she quickly changed the convo when I talked about other girls but now she almost openly encourages me chatting up other girls even though she stares me down the whole time. Take for example today when a prospective housemate came over, this girl is quite hot and I have found I get along well with her. When she arrived my female housemate instantly began sitting closer next to me deliberately touching me which is something that never occurs without the company of other women. I find myself confused and annoyed at the problem to which I feel responsible for. I don't know whether it's me over-analyzing everything or her deliberately confusing me so as to keep me on the sidelines. Any help would be greatly appreciated and please do not sugar coat it, I'm a man, I can take it.