"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Problem with a girl...Help !

CoolCat5191

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There is this girl that im kinda friends with that has seen very good sides and traits of mine. She thinks im a good person and cool. Even though ive only talked to her a few times with great converstions mostly on AIM and on the bus home, everytime i try to strike up a convo she doesnt look at me and just replies with quick answers that kill the conversation. I think she only does this to me. What is this telling me? Im i doing anything wrong? She doesnt think im weird or ugly.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Diesel_Power

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I'll be brutaly honest. She thinks your just a nice guy to talk to, and henever she feels that your coming onto her she tries to distance herself from you. Hence the one worded answers and not looking in your direction.

Learn from this and approach other women in your school.

How much do you talk to her? and how much are you talking about yourself?

Perhaps you've shown her that your clingy. Try giving her less attention for awhile and give other women in your school more attention and than see if she comes back to you. If not, accpet it and move on.
 

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i dont really talk to her that much but when i get the chance to do so we usually flirt and the next time i see her shes not lookin at my and not talking. I barley give alot of info on myself and just ask her open ended questions.
 

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Well if thats the case than approach other women. If she is truely interested in you she'll get jealous seeing you talking to other girls, that she'll come up to you to talk.

If she still doesn't approach you after seeing you hang out with other women than it probably means she's glad you found someone else to bug.

Women aren't gonna be honest with you. If your annoying them they aren't gonna come out and say it. You just gotta study they're body language.

Usually if a women turns her head sideways while you talk to her it means she's proably not interested. If she looks down and plays with her hair it means she's nervous and really likes you.
 
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