Problem w my sister plz give me advice

[Prodigy746]

This will be a longer post but i would really, really appreciate it if you guys read it and give me advice because i have no idea what to do..

I am 22 years old and 4 months ago i moved out of my parents house and and got my apartment. Main reason i wanted to move out is because i didnt want drama and i wanted to focus 100% on school and finish it. My best friend asked me to move in w me and i told him no as i didnt want any drama. I even quit my job so that i can focus on school. Well my sister moved out at age 19 and started living with roomates. 10 days before i moved into my apartment her friends decided not to extend the lease as some of them were moving on with their lives, getting married or going to their parents house. Anyway she is now 20 and was living in a HOTEL for about one week paying 40 dollars a day.

So when i got my apartment she asked to move in with me for 1.5 months until i start school and because i LOVE my sister i agreed. She couldnt move back in w my parents because she is not cool with my dad they dont talk and i dont blame her , he is an *******. So when she moved in i told her that she can live with me , DOESNT HAVE TO PAY ANYTHING TO LIVE WITH ME SO SHE CAN SAVE MONEY. She didnt have a car, lost her wallet with green card in it and drivers licanse, basicly she has no documents. SO thats why i told her she dont have to pay anything and i would drive her to work and back... only thing she has to pay is gas for my car. So 1.5 months later , she ended up giving me about $200 for gas even though i spent way more but thats ok i love my sister. SO 2 days before i am suppose to start school i ask her what is going on how much money she saved and what does she plan on doing. She says she has no idea what she will do and SHE DIDNT SAVE ANY MONEY!!!!!! At this point i am pissed because she only payed me 20 dollars and all that time she was going out w her friends and buying clothes... i couldnt believe it. I WAS PISSED and started yelling at her for not saving money and not thinking ahead of what she will do. She starts crying immediately goes out of apartment and starts texting her friends. I feel bad after that , tell her to come in and have a talk with her.

I get really emotional, and i even start crying... i am not usually emotional and i dont cry easily but i couldnt believe that someone could be so iresponsible and ungreatful. So she starts telling me how she will give me all the money from now on so i can save it for her.. In two weeks she saved 450 dollars and ended up having 350 after paying me for gas so she was able to pay for her lost green card. After that she stopped giving me money and i assumed she will save money on her own... I also told her taht when i start school i will not drive her and she said her friend will drive her. Her friend drove her to work for one week and said she couldnt so i continue driving her. Fast forward to this morning she really pissed me off. Again she has saved 0$ money but whats even worse is the way she is acting. Today she cleaned my clothes (she doest it with hers ONCE every week) and when she came by i asked her to wash my pot so that I CAN COOK some food before i start going to school. Immediately she starts saying how she just washed my clothes and how i should clean the pot my self. On top of that she was saying how i woke up so late, i was studying until 3am and woke up at 11am... is that so wrong? Even if it was wrong this is my apartment i can do whatever i want and sleep however long i want. Also i am older than her and she shouldnt be telling me what to do especially since i pay all the freaking bills.? SO she wouldnt wash the pot until i pressed for it. HERE SHE IS LIVING WITH ME FOR 4 MONTHS, PAYS NO UTILITIES , NO RENT, I DRIVE HER TO WORK 4 DAYS A WEEK , PUTTING 45 MILES ON MY CAR EVERYTIME I HAVE TO DRIVE HER TO WORK.... AND SHE IS COMPLAING ABOUT WASHING MY CLOTHES WITH HER CLOTHES ONCE A WEEK. On top of that she is complaining about having to wash one pot... she barely cleans anything in apartment and the restroom is junky from all her make up and stuff.

This morning i woke up in very good mood, was happy and everything and she just killed the mood. I had 3 classes today from 12-9:45 pm and i could barely pay attention, i was so pissed and dissapointed. I dont understand how she could be so freakin ungreatful and this is the exact reason why i wanted to be by my self.

MY QUESTIONS TO YOU LADIES AND GENTS IS WHAT SHOULD I DO???

SHE is my sister and i cant kick her out on the street.. she still has no car, no money, and her green card hasnt even arrived yet although she has applied for it. SHe cant get a licanse without green card.

I am sick of living with her as she is constantly pissing me off.. It is affecting my school and me constantly having to drive her to work and from work is killing my social life as i cannot go out anywhere because i have to pick her up from work or take her to work. she is treating this as a vacation, has some 20 yo boyfriend that she met and goes out almost every day.. SHe claims she doesnt spend any money and that he pays for everything but yet she doesnt have any money.. SHe is constantly on the phone texting and talking w her friends but yet none of them want to help her.

I already tried talking to her 2 times , sat her down got very emotional and told her what she was doing was wrong... I HATE IT BECAUSE I AM 22 AND I FEEL LIKE I AM A FATHER ALREADY. I just want to be a normal single guy looking for girls and focusing 100% on my work. I cant even bring any girls to my apartment because obviously making out w a girl or having sex with her is out of the picture if my sis is in the apartment. It is a 1 bedroom apartment.

I dont want to keep money for her as i already have to worry about all my bills and my school work.. She is 20 and should know how to save money..

GRRRR WHAT DO I DO... am i in the wrong here???

 

[AAAgent]

what you did was right but it's kind creepy how tight of a relationship you have with your sister. You can't shelter them your whole life, you have to set boundaries. If you want to play it on the safe side, manage her money for about a month or so or longer until she has enough to pay for all her stuff and enough for first month's security deposit on rent. kick her out and she should have a place to stay.

 

[WaterTiger]

Now you might have an idea as to why your Dad is an azzhole! He has to deal with your doofy sister!

She's being selfish, childish & entitled. You need to have a serious talk to her about being responsible, saving up money or going home to your parents.

 

[Smack]

Give her an ultimatum.

 

[Phenomenal One]

Give her an ultimatum.

She already knows that as soon as the crocodile tears come out she can sway his mind.

He has to know 100% that he's gonna stick by that ultimatum NO MATTER WHAT.

I have a sister just like that and she knows not to go to our father or myself with a sob story because we do'nt give a damn. but my mother is the one that caters to her at one point even buying her bills.

 

[Evzone]

First you need to figure out what exactly it is that you want. Do you want her to leave, or are you find with letting her stay but start pulling her weight? Does that mean you charge her rent?

Once you have your thoughts collected, sit her down and explain it to her. Don't get irate; it doesn't show strength. If she starts screaming or whining, just stay cool. You need to show that you're serious about what you mean.

I'm not saying that you need to kick her out or not, because you need to decide that yourself. You can't enable her free-loading though forever, because if you do, this problem is just going to come up and you'll be posting this same question again in a few months.

 

[Desert Fox]

You seem like a good guy that cares about his sister, but your sister seems more interested in herself and doesn't give a damn about you, your future, and your suffering.

Simply said, her mindset is that of a little girl and that's sad. You need to set ground rules. Make some binding contract. I know personally I could never kick out a family member if they were acting like dbags...I don't know why, I just can't do it. I would probably suck it up like you are and sacrifice for them.

But at some point you need to draw the line and just say "this is it." Set boundaries, if they are broken, there will be consequences.

 

[Luthor Rex]

Start running game on her.

Look deeply into her eyes.

Touch her in suggestive ways.

If all else fails kiss her with tongue.

Fearing incest, she should run away on her own.

 

[Prodigy746]

I dont understand how its creepy to let my sister live with me and not have her stay in a hotel.

I WANT TO LIVE BY MY SELF... idont want a roomate, i could have had my best friend as my romate but i told him i dont want a roomate.

Anyway i had her start paying me money for rent and stuff. but i still want her to get her own place and let me be bymyself.

I dont want to live with her as i want to bring girls over and bang them... obviously i cant do that w my sister being w me and on top of that i dont want to worry if my sis is gonna come home while i am benging a chick. Thats one of the reasons why i moved out of my parents house.