problem...im dropping plates..for one chick.

[jay07]

Kind of a question for experienced guys here, as I'm sure some of you have been in similar situations.
I've known this chick for about a year. She's my best friends wife's best friend. (Obviously sets me up in a good predicament for hooking up)

She's had a bf for a while but I've always crushed on her. however, I don't mess with dudes gfs. I have respect for relationships. about a month ago me and her started snapchatting a lot. she went on a bachelorette party with my buddy's wife and my ex gf was also on it.

well me and.my ex havnt talked in a while but I learned this chick was was intentionally trying to piss my ex off so I was like hmm maybe she's crushing also.

so this weekend were messaging via snapchat (messages delete so it s a way her bf won't kno) and she makes a joke about my ex and I tell her I don't put up with cheaters I have more self respect then to stay with girls like that.

Well 2 days later she breaks up with her bf and comes to town. I find out her bf cheated on her like 7 times, I feel like our convo persuaded her to leave him.

so I digress.. we bang and start talkin a lot while she was in town. I'm not.gonna lie I like her and she's great in bed. on top of it she's best friends with my best friends wife so it'd be a fun relationship. however I kno she just goult out of a relationshi.

I've found myself ignoring plates.cause I'm more interested in talking to her. now, if anyone has been in a similar situation, (best friends girls bf) is it dangerous territory or is it worth the pursuit?

 

[Zarky]

Dangerous territory, especially that one. Maintain the other plates at all times. If you need plates who will keep you more interested, then get new plates.

 

[jay07]

thanks for response but why do you feel so? Cause she just got out of relationship or because it could cause issues with friendships?

I kno chicks will break up for stupid reasons to get their rocks off w. someone else (me in this. circumstance) usually I'm in the driver seat with this situation with my exes. so this is new. I would not be surprised if she went back to him and we went back to normal, I guess I went afc over the weekend and tried fighting a n uphill battle.

I've preached it before exes generally win. first chick in. a while I've felt like I could date long term.

 

[Fireballs]

Her being your best friends wifes friend isn't the problem. The problem is that she has just gotten out of a sh!tty relationship and you are trying to be her saviour. (correct me if I'm wrong here but this is what I gather from what you have said especially this - ''I went afc over the weekend and tried fighting a n uphill battle'')

''I would not be surprised if she went back to him''
You playing the nice guy routine will work for a short while but eventually you will hear the words LJBF. For her not to go back to her ex, she needs to see you as more dominant, and she needs to be more attracted to you than she was to him.