problem getting girl

[bluefire7321]

ok where should i start... this is my first post so please dont hit me to harsh. ok well let me start out there is this girl her name is patrisha, she is a really cute blonde girl and she is in 9th grade. things that we share in common ( she loves my music, both ride motorsports together, both act alike.)
theres probably more but im not sure.
also i am not the best looking guy... girls say that i am a 6-7 usually. well also she is more of like an 8. she is in 9th grade and i am in 11th. We have hung out 4 times or so and im not sure to call her. the only time i have ever called her was once and she said " hey let me call you back im really busy right now or something". ok well i dont know what to do. I have heard that she likes my best friend and im usually with him. i havent heard anything about me....... tonight we went to a haunted house place and she was hugging my best friends arm the whole time. randomly she came up to me at one of the parts for about 1 seconds and held both of our arms? she let go and went back with my best friend. when were out of the haunted house she didnt interact with either of us and left to go with her friends. o also to mentio when we hug we hug pretty closely and its a strong hug.... who knows she might do that to everyone. she says we can go motocross rideing sunday but i dont know what to do if we go also she doesnt go to my school but is thinking about transfering to mine. she wears the same cloths as me. ....... let me know whats going on guys PLZ! WHAT SHOULD I DO I REALLY LIKE THIS GIRL!

 

[The Master Disaster]

Let her go, work on your looks, and move on. She obviously isn't interested in you.It seems like you got oneitis (obsesive over one girl). This girl sounds really self-absorbed you don't need that so just move on. Your better then that.

 

[DinoCassanova]

It doesn't always work out. I'm sure you really like her. I hate to say this blue but judging from what you typed there it sounds like she's more into your boy. This hurts like hell (happened to me once; I wanted to kill them both, I was furious jealous and hurt). But you'll get over it. Part of being a player, in my opinion, blue, is realistically knowing your limitations. You could read every post on this forum , every archive, every book written about this stuff, etc etc, you get the idea, and if the chick just isn't into you for whatever reasons ( and by the way sh*tcan that stuff about you not being a good looking guy; that kind of thinking will become a life pattern for you if you let it, so cut it out now ) then she just isn't into you. Part of being a skillful player, in my opinion, is knowing when to say when and walk away from a situation. I notice a lot of the macks here call it "nexting". Girls are like buses; you miss one, just keep hanging out. Another one is on the way. This kind of thing can be painful but don't get down. The fact is, no mack, even the mega macks like Style and Mystery and all the ultra DJ's who post on here regularly, can give you a way to literally change another human being's mind about something. That would be , like, magic. And you don't believe in magic do you?? Although I admit it would be hella cool. If she's into this guy just let them have each other and see where it goes. Next chick who comes along is all you. Oh and look up "oneitis" on these boards. And try to avoid getting it. It's where you take one girl, ya know, and you kind of put her up on a pedestal and almost "worship" her from afar, even though in truth you don't even know her all that well. Forget that. It's a waste of your mental energy. If you're feelin lots of love and/or angst and all that write some prose or something man. That's what I used to do when I was in hs. Check out Jim Morrison's books. You know the Doors?? Probably not. But anyway the lead singer, that's Jim Morrison, he's dead now, but he wrote some great prose and poetry. Reading and learning to write that kind of stuff can be a great creative outlet for times like these when there's really no way to force a chick to like you. Key thing to take away from this post brother; it's not YOU. It's not your looks, or anything like that. I swear. It's just the way things go sometimes. So don't take it personally. Tomorrow's school isn't it??? If you're reading this now, why the hell aren't you in bed??? j/k man...... best of luck ~D

 

[bluefire7321]

ok so let me get this straight......this is one of the rare girls that i actually like as a person and as a sexual attraction and i should let her go? btw im not obsessed with her i can forget about her and move on but i see her more than just a piece of ****. shes different thats what im trying to say.

 

[The Master Disaster]

Originally posted by bluefire7321
ok so let me get this straight......this is one of the rare girls that i actually like as a person and as a sexual attraction and i should let her go? btw im not obsessed with her i can forget about her and move on but i see her more than just a piece of ****. shes different thats what im trying to say.

i'm sure she is. I'm trying to be nice, but everyone goes through this. The 1st one always hurts the most.

 

[bluefire7321]

ok first of all.... my best friend doesnt like her. i can make her laugh when were together. she snot my first and i just want to know what to do in my situation of i am going to meet her sunday...... im not obsessed and also her friends think im "hott" so does that help..... can u guys help me out instead of shutting me out so quick.....

 

[The Master Disaster]

If you get a chance to talk to her a lot on sunday. The key to get her addicted to you is "feel." This is a good way to make a girl just fall madly in love with you. All you have do is make her feel sad, happy, ashamed, make fun of her, make her laugh, make her feel loved. The more feelings she feels the more she loves who ever gives her those feelings. Switch it up so she won't know what feeling is next. Don't give her too much attention or she'll take you for granted. Just make her feel and back off. Next time you see her after sunday she'll be eating out of your palms.

 

[DinoCassanova]

Sorry if it sounded like I was "shutting you out" blue. "You're my boy blue !! " lol....... Listen, if you're going to see her on Sunday you better be looking your best and feeling like you've got a million bucks in the bank. Walk taller than usual. Improve your posture. This happens by sucking in the stomach just a tad when you're walking and holding your shoulders back just a tad, chest a little more out than usual. People vibe off this, believe it or not. It marks you as kind of an "alpha" male when you first walk in. Then be as funny as you can with her on Sunday. Women love a sense of humor. Be quick witted and have a lot of ****yish (but not TOO ****y) comebacks for her, etc. They say a sense of humor is the number one aphrodisiac. If her friends are telling her you're hot, and you're sitting there making her laugh with you all day on Sunday, you'll hit your buddy with the mack knife in no time. ( In Dino slang that means you'll c**k block him effectively, take this girl away from him , basically). Work towards the end of the date , depending on the vibes you're getting from her, towards getting her digits. Again, don't give yours and get nothing in return. Sunday could end well for you. Give it your best shot. I think the situation may have some potential yet. Hope this helps, a little at least. ~D

 

[bluefire7321]

thanks alot D and MD u gave me hope unlike the other guys who humped me the first 3 seconds i posted. also being ****? as in what should i say give me some big examples of some ones that girls usually use......... when should i call her... she gave me her number already....... and also its been 3 days since she gave it to me like i said b4 she said " hey im really busy can i call you back later" it was late so i think she just went to sleep but if i call again when should it be and what should we talk about!?? thanks D and MD AGAIN

 

[DinoCassanova]

I would call her on Saturday blue and talk to her a little about what's up with Saturday night, what she has planned, etc, and also talk to her about Sunday. You're welcome by the way. Good luck ! ~D

 

[Boner da Stoner]

You are prank material

Don't you just love it when girls play mind games?

How they reel you in and thrown you back out to see if you really are a big fish?

That behind being oneitis(sissy) creates the urge to randomly think of extreme lack of respect to due obsessed ergo addictive perceptions?

 

[oakraiderz2]

She like your friend im guessing. Be cool with her and hook up with her friends or some sh*t. You kinda remind me of me waaay back, trying to analyze everything. It doesnt matter that you two wear the same clothing brand, im sure i wear the same clothing brand. Anywho, read some stuff, get some game, then get some poosay.