Probably a dumb question, but looking for advice

[TheBaconator]

Ok so here's the deal. I am pretty much at rock bottom right now with the ladies. Have been bangin some 5s and lower but really haven't had anything worthwhile in a longg time. I've been a pssy when it comes to talking to women, something i definetly need to improve on, and i've been very busy. On top of that it's very hard to act suave when you have no other plates.

Everything has been a failure for me with women latley, I get interest, numbers and sometimes hook ups when I go out, but then when I get them on the phone it's very hard for me to hold interest and get a day 2.

So I got this girls number a couple weeks ago (shes bestfriends with my one of my boys GF) and I never called because I figured if i got rejected then anytime I see her again it would be akward (i know its very pssy of me). She didn't give off much interest either which is also why I didnt.

Now my friend broke up with his girl and I dont have anything planned for tommorow so i figure whats the harm in calling and giving it a shot. So WTF should I say to seem smooth and get interest? Basically I need phone game help.

 

[Solomon]

Man Da Fcuk Up!!

Ok so here's the deal. I am pretty much at rock bottom right now with the ladies. Have been bangin some 5s and lower but really haven't had anything worthwhile in a longg time. I've been a pssy when it comes to talking to women, something i definetly need to improve on, and i've been very busy. On top of that it's very hard to act suave when you have no other plates.

Everything has been a failure for me with women latley, I get interest, numbers and sometimes hook ups when I go out, but then when I get them on the phone it's very hard for me to hold interest and get a day 2.

So I got this girls number a couple weeks ago (shes bestfriends with my one of my boys GF) and I never called because I figured if i got rejected then anytime I see her again it would be akward (i know its very pssy of me). She didn't give off much interest either which is also why I didnt.

Now my friend broke up with his girl and I dont have anything planned for tommorow so i figure whats the harm in calling and giving it a shot. So WTF should I say to seem smooth and get interest? Basically I need phone game help.

1. Are you contend with banging 5's or lower? your frame is telling me you don't feel confident, what is causing this? work? finaces? or is it just the ladies? you have to go out on the field man, with your head the fcuk up, no matter how "uncomforatbe" you feel. if you want that chick you gonna have to get her!

2. You say you get interest, are you building rapport? can you give us an example of an "interaction"?

3. Why don't you hold interest? your phone game aint tight? or the chicks are boring you?

4. YOu are unassuming inaterest, always assume interest you got the number didn't ya? so why u being a lil punkbiatch about it?

5. When not if, when you call her just be like "hey blah blah, its bacanoator I just wanted you to know im going bowling (or any other acitivty ) tommrrow wanna tag along" she may be busy, you are not asking for a date, you simply offering an opprounity to hang out. That way she won't feel presurred if she asks you who is going, tell her it's a surprise or some ****

Look I've been having the same problem lately, however my frame is a bit more postive then yours, we all hit a slump, its a #'s game man, just think of the times, when you were successful and try to recollect what made those approaches successfull. Postive frame/confidence/swagger is everything, don't talk bad about feeling lousy, cu that bullsscit out, your a man its your duty to get these chicks, its in ya Dna playboy

Solo

 

[TheBaconator]

Thanks for the reply Solomon.

You're dead on, my confidence is at an all time low. It's been bad since my ex dumped me months ago. She was the only LTR i've ever had, we were together for almost 4 years and ever since being newly single I just haven't had much luck with women. I'm only 22, so she took up all of my college years. Now I just feel lost, and it feels sh*tty.

I feel like such a pssy even writing all this, I just know im doing something wrong. The only time I get the balls to cold approach is after some drinks which is terrible, and I must not be saying the right things judging by my rate of success. My fone game is absolutley terrible, I feel like a deer caught in the headlights when talking to some new girl on the fone trying to convince her to come out with me.

 

[rapidfire]

Don't ever settle. I know people tell you that you should lower your standards, but believe me, you'll only feel disappointed as time goes by.

Just keep plugging away. Sometimes you go through cycles where you're hot with the girls one minute, cold the next.

 

[rapidfire]

double post.

 

[TheBaconator]

Don't ever settle. I know people tell you that you should lower your standards, but believe me, you'll only feel disappointed as time goes by.

Just keep plugging away. Sometimes you go through cycles where you're hot with the girls one minute, cold the next.

It's not that i'm settling man, I just feel like i'm in the biggest rut and don't know how the F to get out of it.

I used to get so many girls before my ex. Then I went with her and was faithful and now I feel like a newbie and I have no success.

I should retitle this to "I feel like a loser, how the F can I get out of it"