My GF keeps calling me like 10 times a day at any time morning evening while im at college while im hangin out all time.she sometimes even calls me when shes having breaks in school and seizes any opportunity to call me.How should i use that to my advantage and how much should i answer and show myself hard to get ....etc.the prob if i dont answer her for a whole day for example she goes crazy and sends me messages asking why and so.THANKS
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Prob with my GF calling like crazy
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
do the same back
call her like crazy and say things like i just wanted to tell you i am going to the bathroom now
then call back and say ok just wanted to tell you im out
she will get sick of it fast
call her like crazy and say things like i just wanted to tell you i am going to the bathroom now
then call back and say ok just wanted to tell you im out
she will get sick of it fast
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Do you want to resort to game playing? Just tell her that you don't mind talking to her every once in a while, but if she continues calling you so often, she's going to feel like a nuisance and then you wouldn't want to talk to her at all.
Then YOU take complete control of the situation, tell her when you next expect to be free to talk to her and tell her that YOU will call her at that time. You HAVE TO keep your word if you want to keep control of the situation.
Then YOU take complete control of the situation, tell her when you next expect to be free to talk to her and tell her that YOU will call her at that time. You HAVE TO keep your word if you want to keep control of the situation.
Best friends? NAY
Senior Don Juan
She seems a tiny bit crazy........ If you really haven't been dating long I would suggest you dump her, that kind of behavior usually isn't good.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
how about not picking up the phone when she calls?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Ridingthelightning
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I agree with Best Friends, I would seriously think about dumping her. Its an immature action that she's taking, and one immature action is the sign of many more to come.
JackPrescott
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Wow, you are doing something right! Keep her, and use her both carnally, and to get other women interested in you.
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The good: she's loyal, probably attractive.
The bad, daddy issues', insecure.
You can tell her to cut down on the calling, but this will make her insecure self suspicious. As of right now she has your balls, If she starts changing how you dress to how you keep your place, it's too late.
Solution? Be firm, NEVER ignore or use the copy-cat technique (people recommend this, but this will stir up more crap, TRUST ME ON THIS I've been there!)
The bad, daddy issues', insecure.
You can tell her to cut down on the calling, but this will make her insecure self suspicious. As of right now she has your balls, If she starts changing how you dress to how you keep your place, it's too late.
Solution? Be firm, NEVER ignore or use the copy-cat technique (people recommend this, but this will stir up more crap, TRUST ME ON THIS I've been there!)
AdrenalynJunkee
Don Juan
Tell her shes wasting the hell out of your minutes and needs to call once in a while...not 24/7. Pull the "what would you do if I was calling you every open time I had" thing. SHe'll get the picture.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
Ditto. Caller ID was made for this type of situation.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Sounds like she will do anything for you. Get some cash from her and get her to buy you ****, also engage in any perverse sexual depravity you may be interested in with her, she will most likely perform any such action no matter how disgusting or degrading it is with pleasure in an attempt to please you.
There's an easy solution.
Plan A: Tell her " honey, you call me too much. Ease up a bit...once a day would be reasonable"
Failing that, plan B: "Veranda*, you're too clingy. We should go our separate ways"
*Who names their kid veranda?
Plan A: Tell her " honey, you call me too much. Ease up a bit...once a day would be reasonable"
Failing that, plan B: "Veranda*, you're too clingy. We should go our separate ways"
*Who names their kid veranda?
Lack of any social understanding on your part -- back in the days when you were out of class/work/whatever and were thinking what to do next. Who to call to hang out etc... the same is with her. She doesn't have her shi_t together (and which girl does?) so by calling you she's trying to look busy to others. Don't break up just yet as it's only a sign of crapy social skills/understanding on her part. But definatly tell her that 10 times is way too much.