"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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pretty useless with women!

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Hi fellas,i came across this website and its been a good read.Im 35 in 4 weeks and single,only had 2 girlfriends al my life and have missed at least 5 girls by thinking we were just friends.I missed the signals like you wouldn't believe.I lack the confidence and killer blow at the end to make things happen.Anyhow thought id say hi!ill post a lot on these boards think!atb ben-
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Welcome to the forum!

The confidence will come as your improve yourself in all aspects: Mental, Physical, Money, Social Skills.

The killer blow come from confidence but also from not fearing rejections and keeping a good attitude.

You came a great place, as the men in here have a bunch of experience and will be able to help you.

Remember the search button is your friend !

Cheers
 

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cheers badboyjmm!...i hav zero confidence just now,well maybe 10% i get women interested in me.Then i don't know how to get with them or and afraid of rejection so i kinda fade them out and walk off.
 

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Welcome to our forums Sir. Badboyjmm hit home with his post above. All I can add at this time is make sure you find your way to the DJ Bible and read it. This is a great group of people here and this site has the power to change your life for the better if you use it properly.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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benjamin1980 said:
cheers badboyjmm!...i hav zero confidence just now,well maybe 10% i get women interested in me.Then i don't know how to get with them or and afraid of rejection so i kinda fade them out and walk off.

We've all been through this feeling and actually, I'm sure even the most confident guy in the world is not 100% confident all that time.

What makes me more brave is the following: "What the worst that can happen if I talk to a chick I find attractive ?" Maybe the girl is on her period and she will get mad, or not even acknowledge me, or say no I'm not interested.

Guess what ? I'm not dead from it, nor I got a disease that is staying with me forever.

Sure it stings, but guess what ? We all get rejected, when applying to school, jobs, woman, when running after the bus (the bus driver sees me running but doesn't stop for me lol)

What you got to realize is the rejection is not the problem, because in life, negative and uncomfortable situations will happen.

All it matter is how you respond. Makes sure it's the right response :rockon:
 
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