"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

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For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

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Pretty confusing incident

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Last night I was standing at the bar. A really sweet and hot girl said hi and we started talking. We both ordered the same beer and we decided to sit down together. She said "are you single? Cause I don't want to cause any drama sitting next to you if you have girl".

I said I'm single. This is great. She is sweet, sexy and doesnt like to create drama. Great!

We sit down and have a talk and the chemistry is amazing. She also has a bunch of tattoes and I think it is really sexy. This is getting even better. I tease her a bit since she is from the suburbs/countryside and made a joke about if she came her with her tractor. She was like "yeaah! :-D haha how did you know? :p" Cool.

then we talk about other stuff and we have a lot in common. We go out for a smoke and when I finish my cigarette and about to walk in she says she'll go to the bar next door for a minute.

I was a bit surprised since we were going on so well. "see you later" Decay said. But I acted like I didn't care and just went in without looking back. She eventually came back but she didn't seem very interested then. I got her number and I plan on sending her a message in a few days about going out.

I did give her a few compliments since I really really liked her but I made sure in being laid back, not too overly interested and taking things easy. But what the hell went wrong?

This girl is exactly the type of girl i want: Sweet yet sexy, a girl with a certain amount of morals, great chemistry, the same interests etc. So I really want to know what I did wrong so it doesn't happen again with another girl. I'd like to learn from this.
 

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It could be anything.


Be careful though. She seems like a sweet country girl but take a look at her actions. She seemed a little forward when you met her, she has a bunch of tattoes which is always a red flag. She went into a different bar for some reason which was probably to do with another man.
 

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She may have wanted you to bend her over the hood of your car in the parking lot. Who knows?
 

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She seems like a sweet country girl but take a look at her actions. She seemed a little forward when you met her, she has a bunch of tattoes which is always a red flag. She went into a different bar for some reason which was probably to do with another man.
Exactly what I was thinking. I bet she's not as innocent as the OP seems to think. She approached him, after all, and you can bet it isnt her first. Running over to the bar next door pretty much seals it. She probably had a better option for the night.
 
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